to think they could have said one nice thing about my children

[justalittlelemondrizzle]

We had parents evening last night and I came out feeling so deflated. I didn't go in there with rose tinted glasses, I know where my dd's need improvement. Dd1 is in year 3 and is a sensitive, kind and gentle girl she was recently bullied by a horrible girl in her class who also bullied her in year 1. She lost her confidence because of this back then due to an awful teacher who blamed it on her her confidence has never returned. I know she is a smart girl, not gifted or anything but pretty smart. The school expect so much and her year group are exceptionally bright. Her teacher didnt say one positive thing about her. Everything was negative then she stood up meaning time to go.
Dd2 is bright but pretty lazy, I know this, I expected this. But again no positive comments about anything. Theyre both polite, helpful and friendly girls. Could they really not find anything nice to say about them. Im so upset. I feel like I have failed them

[GoblinLittleOwl]

If two different teachers are both negative about your children, you should listen to them. Perhaps they are different at home from school.

At one time every report had to be positive; now the climate is changing. If you heard Michael Willshaw yesterday he was advocating that Heads become battle-axes, and more, in the fight to raise standards; this will percolate down to teachers, so there may be more unpleasant parents' evenings to come.

Please don't ignore them.

[ppeatfruit]

Well battle axe Heads will definitely raise standards maybe a return of corporal punishment would also be helpful

Heaven forfend that less pressure on teachers and children would help.

[CigarsofthePharoahs]

That's so harsh to have to deal with op.
My eldest is in reception year and we've just had parents evening.
It could have been awful. My son seems to have some concentration issues and these were discussed, but his teacher was always keen to stress what he was achieving as well as what he wasn't.
I have come away from it feeling a little rattled, I knew he struggled in that area a little bit but hadn't twigged it was quite as bad as it was, but also hopeful as he is achieving a lot at the same time.
It was a compliment sandwich, but the negatives weren't handled in a belittling manner, more a case of "How can we work on this together?"
Goblin, that made me shudder. I had a "battle axe" junior school teacher who just labelled me as thick and let me coast for the best part of two years, in between berating me. I wasn't thick, I just got things the wrong way round due to being left handed. Caught right back up again when I switched classes.

[ppeatfruit]

Yes Cigarsoft At age 6 DD2 had a 'battle-axe' teacher who told us she was going to " break her will" because she "wasn't writing as much as the other bright girls".

It turned out she had dyslexia. We had to remove her from this woman's class because she was EA her fgs. She picked on 1 or 2 of her class every year because DD1 she saw her EA some other children when she was in her class.

Oh and by the way Goblin She did not raise standards ,the opposite more like.