To ask what you do in this situation?

[altctrldel]

Couldnt go into work today due to personal circumstances. I only started 3 weeks ago and havent had my contract yet.

Contacted my boss when we opened today, i know he was in earlier but I honestly didnt have the time. Left a message for him and he hasnt called back. I left another for him at the end of the day apologising.

AIBU to worry?

[icelollycraving]

So what happened op?

[Purplepicnic]

I think it's fair enough not to go into to much detail on an answering machine as you don't know who will hear it. You probably should have rung before 'opening' as he would have been left to the last minute wondering if you were going to show.

I don't think all is lost but you should speak to him and explain as soon as possible. You've called again but keep trying.

[kslatts]

I thin YABU, family difficulties makes it sound like your babysitter let you down.

[Unicorncatsack]

And I don't have to "call" in sick either. My boss is happy with a text message. It's how she lets us know if she's sick or running late too.

Makes for a much nicer more relaxed working environment and no one takes the piss because they have no reason to bother doing so.

[PosieReturningParker]

If I was your new boss I would think you were unreliable and probably get rid of you.

[firesidechat]

How do we know she hates her job?

She said so on a different thread.

[VoldysGoneMouldy]

You should have called earlier. You knew he was in, and it would have given you the opportunity to talk to him without other people hearing. Instead you waited until after work opened, when things would be busier. Regardless of the situation, if you are employed, you have a responsibility to your employer.

I'd be prepared to not receive that contract if I were you.

[Unicorncatsack]

Um, I've not been able to go to work prior to now because my sister was suicidal after a break up. My boss was absolutely lovely about it. In her words : "family comes first". As a result it's a really nice, supportive place to work.

Some pretty nasty replies on this thread.

[weeblueberry]

What do you do? If your boss has to be on a retail floor from opening there's a very reasonable chance he just wasn't able to call you back. Or, depending on the job, he might be having to cover your work too meaning he's swamped.

[Zariyah]

YABU re: "family difficulties". You can easily give more context without giving too much away. What you've said sounds like an invalid excuse for missing work. To me, family difficulties are; a teenager refusing to go to school, relative being arrested or gran in hospital with a chest infection but not critical.

[Stillunexpected]

How do we know she hates her job?

[firesidechat]

She hates her job anyway, so maybe hoping for the sack.

[notapizzaeater]

As an employer it wouldn't be looking good for you, I need reliable people around me. Obv as people say if mum/hubby/son etc has been rushed into hospital then that's different, but anything other than that I'd not be happy.

[xenapants]

She's not going to tell us, folks. Because it isn't anything that was justifiable to take time off for and she knows she's in the wrong. As a PP said, the "family comes first" crowd will call in if their mothers' fingernail turns purple.

[gleekster]

I don't think anyone can really comment without knowing what the issue was.

[razmataz]

It's a pretty poor show. 3 weeks in I assume you're still in your probation period. I'd be grovelling to your boss tomorrow, and be damn sure you're 100% reliable and hard working without fail for the foreseeable future.

[DisappointedOne]

Unless you're in a very specialised role I wouldn't be expecting a second chance, to be honest.

[AyeAmarok]

I think it very much depends on what the emergency is.

Are you meant to be in work tomorrow? Are you going in? I'd maybe go in early and explain and apologise.

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

No apologies needed, I know most people don't think about that sort of thing (it's a good thing).

It was over 10 years ago now she's doing as well as could be expected still has to have the odd operation but that's all now.

[PurpleDaisies]

Apologies needsasockamnesty I was making assumptions based on the op that whatever had happened wasn't the kind of emergency emergency that you had-I really hope your daughter is doing ok now.

[deregistered]

I manage a team of 50 people, retail industry.

I know only too well the 'family comes before work' type of staff member. These people think their sister splitting with their partner, their mum needing a lift to the airport or their next door neighbour unable to watch their kids are situations where it's reasonable to phone in absent.

I am to a point sympathetic and to a point supportive but once this happens more than once or twice a year and I realise just don't get that everyone else in the store also has an outside life fraught with variables and problems but move hell and high water to get to work, their card is marked.

Maybe this isn't you OP, maybe your emergency is justified. But in future please bear in mind we all have families and problems. And that when you phone in and say 'personal circumstances' it will be assumed there is some drama or childcare problem that is really not your boss's problem.

[NeedsAsockamnesty]

Purple.

When my daughter got run over there was no 30 second block where I could slip out of the room to use a phone for about 10 hours when she was stable enough to be taken to the operating room.

And even then I had to tell the police to give me 5 before they spoke to me so I could call work and her school. Obviously I asked staff at the hospital to contact her dad.