AIBU to not attend the hen party

[Tamponlady]

My sister is getting married some time next year at some point I am not sure when and she has tagged me into a group hen do group


My other sister pops up on what's app and is asking what's all this about a hen weekend, my sister says she will ring her mean while she rings me and asks if I am going

I tell my sister considering my daughter is now 3 and she's never borthered to meet her she rarely returns calls so I gave up about 18 months ago and the last straw was a surprise party that was held for my bil to eveyone was there bar me and mine I don't think I will going and tbh not sure I will either northern with the wedding assuming I even get a invite she's not even aware that we have moved home according to my other sister we have been her 15 months.

I think this is a clear case of my thinking our relationship was closer than she viewed it I always felt we were close but clearly once I stopped ringing her we stopped talking so it goes to show who was doing all the running

My lovey daughter will never no her auntie her two cousins I feel very hurt

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Well shes taken no interest in your dd (her own niece) so why should you take an interest in her hen night and wish her well in her wedding. Yes harsh and nasty but never the less, true.
Her trying to get in touch is a bit late in the day now

[Tamponlady]

No it's a bit like when people send you a happy Christmas text they are sending to eveyone in there contacts


I believe this is what's happened and the end of the group when they had finished making plans she said thanks eveyone if your not coming please remove yourself from the groups there were about 40 people in the group

We have not spoken in about 2 years haven seen her in 3 there has been no falling out just realised it was me contacting her once I stopped the contact stopped

If we were close she would of come to see the daughter we adopted she would of retuned my calls and she would have known we moved

I can't do all the running I am tired and I don't wasn't to see pictures of family gatherings on Instagram and Facebook that we don't get invited to its very sad

[Hassled]

But by tagging you on this hen do group is that not her way of getting back in proper contact? Are you sure she's not trying to reconnect and get close again? It sounds like you miss her and wish she was involved in your life, and now you have the chance to get that - don't cut off your nose to spite your face.