And are judgemental of those whose don't come up to scratch by their standards?
I don't think there are actually many of us who can claim huge credit for things that have gone well. More, I think those who are okay, settled, financially stable should be thanking their lucky stars that they had any of the flowing leg ups that made them able to make choices in life that worked out well:
- parents who valued education
- living in an area the had good schools
- having parents who were emotionally stable enough to give them confidence and support
- having a parentsl household income in childhood/early adulthood that let them take risks and or stay in education
- having good enough physical and mental health to get through school/training/education
- having academic/emotional ability and aptitudes for so called "good" jobs
- meeting the right friends/partners
- not having anything go disastrously wrong job wise/financially
- having a crystal ball
- a lot of luck
I could go on. Personally, I have a degree, financial security, a stable family now and a job that I can earn well in. But if I track my "success" back I would be better to describe it as a very precariously balanced, sometimes nearly disastrous series of part chosen, part chose me events. Isn't everyone pretty much the same?
This strikes me as why the tax credits debate is so horrible and why I dislike the phrase "hard working families" so very much.
And please forgive me if describing my position in the way I have sounds smug in any way; I do not remotely feel like that. I have long term mental health issues, my parents are a mess and I struggle hugely with parenting my three kids. So how b**y unfair is it that I seem to get away with it scot free because of some earning potential and financial independence?
Somebody famous like Newton once said "I am standing on the shoulders of giants" about the research and scientists that went before him and, even without getting into what a screwed up way this society chooses to judge success, I think anyone who has this "success" should think carefully about where it came from. Hard work, absolutely, but others work hard and don't enjoy the fruits so much.