AIBU?
A homework argument already
WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 10/09/2015 22:09
Ds has started at big school now. Year 7. Bus trip, several villages away.
They get homework every night. Nothing new there...
But the maths teacher has set homework today. Due in tomorrow. And we have spent all evening at the school "parents q&a evening"
His after-school time went roughly...
4:00 bus arrives in our village
4:15 meets me and dd in park
4:30 has ice cream with a friend
5:00 in the car to go back to school
5:30 snack before meeting
6:00 sat in hall
7:30 driving home via chippy as nobody has eaten
8:15 home and he tells me he has homework
8:30 shower as he stinks
9:00 finally gets out of shower
9:30 packing PE kit etc for tomorrow.
I know he is a boy and takes forever to do things, but a poster. For tomorrow. On parents evening night?
We all had to go and sit in the parents eve thing. As it explained how school works. It's website. Sickness procedures. Streaming. Etc...
Both me and ds need to know all this stuff, apparently.
Egosumquisum · 10/09/2015 22:14
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Saltedcaramel4 · 10/09/2015 22:21
Have you got the teachers email? We have access to all DD's teachers emails. Your DS can write a quick note saying that he got home at 4 but after traveling to school again, attending the meeting, preparing for tomorrow and eating, there had been no time left for maths homework
TheSecondOfHerName · 10/09/2015 22:22
What is this obsession about posters for homework these days?
It's either that or asking them to cover the exercise book with pictures relevant to the subject.
I have two children in Y7. So far, in one week, they have made four posters and printed out pictures to cover six books. Perhaps each teacher thinks they are being original?
Kampeki · 10/09/2015 22:25
Well, the real issue is that he didn't tell you, isn't it? Presumably he could have done it between 4 and 5 before you went out? Or you could have had an early dinner and then he could have done it after coming home? Not your fault, obviously, because you didn't even know about it, but I'd have thought by Year 7 he is old enough to take responsibility for getting it done.
AmeliaNeedsHelp · 10/09/2015 22:29
The teacher was unreasonable setting homework due in tomorrow when it's parents night (assuming DS had to come with you). That said, he could have fitted it in. 1 hour and 15 between remembering he has homework and being out of the shower ready to do something?!
MidniteScribbler · 10/09/2015 22:35
Does it really need to take over an hour to have a shower and get a PE kit ready? He could have had a five minute shower and had plenty of time to get it done. He could have told you as soon as he got off the bus and skipped the park and the ice-cream. He could have told you earlier and you could have got the chips as takeaway and come home and started. He's now in high school and is going to have to start managing his time better.
I don't like homework set for the next day, but I think that in your case it could have been done, but he needs to be more proactive about doing it. You said in your opening post that he would be getting homework every night, so it should come as no surprise that he would need to sit down and do it. I would let him take any sanctions that occur for not doing it, then help him manage himself (diary, etc) so it doesn't happen again.
Egosumquisum · 10/09/2015 22:40
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BonzoDooDah · 10/09/2015 22:42
Agree with the others. Naff of the teacher to set it for the next day, but your DS could have knocked something up then had a quick shower. Rather than the long shower first and then no time. Your electricity bill must be huge too if he has a shower for that long :D
Kampeki · 10/09/2015 23:03
Thing is, the OP's DS had at least 5.5 waking hours between getting off the bus and going to bed. The parents' evening appears to have been one and a half hours. For some reason, the school is apparently a 30 minute drive from the OP's house in each direction, so add an extra hour of travelling time.
He still had 3 hours in which to eat his dinner, have a shower, get his PE kit ready and do the flipping poster.
I hate homework with every fibre in my body, and I especially hate homework that is set for the next day, but of this was my dd, if expect her to get it done!!
Buttercup27 · 10/09/2015 23:32
It sounds a bit silly that he caught tbe bus home just to get in the car and drive almost straight away back, when you say in your op you were expecting him to get homework most nights. Could ge have not met you at school and completed all homework in the library whilst he waited?
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