To think this is a rubbish thing to say to a girl?

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'Marry a rich man and then you can have what you want'

Who said that to who?

My mother told me to marry a man with a short cough (indicator of a heart problem) and long pockets (loadsa dosh).

Yes it is stupid. Hopefully the girl is wise enough to realise money isn't everything

Of course it's a rubbish thing to say to a girl, but it's equally as damaging to boys.

Yes. However, there are worse more subtle messages given to girls day after day as the grow up.

My mother used to say this to me all them time. Seeing as she was a teacher im amazed she didn't tell me to work hard at school and become successful myself.

Or yes, even that money isn't the answer to everything.

I tell dd if she wants the lifestyle she seems to want/enjoy (iPads, skiing holidays, big house in the country) she will need a decent job to fund it. But ive also told her that it's not worth having a well paid job if you're miserable and if your heart is set on a less well paid job then that's fine as long as you realise you won't be as well off financially.

Ah yes. My mother regularly said to me, 'Marry for money, not for love'. Always in her most bitter voice too.

Ugh.

My nan used to say ' don't love for money but love where money is'. Wise words that I should in retrospect have listened to!

Have you met my mother?

Yeo, I've heard relatives say this to little girls - "you have expensive taste, better marry a rich man" rather than "better work hard and get a well paying job". Ugh.

One of my uncles used to say (admiringly), "Our Nettle will marry a millionaire one day!".

Even then (aged 12) I said, "I'll make the millions myself". I haven't, but I am very glad that I'm not the type who aspired to marry money. What kind of woman does that make you?

my mum used to say, "it's as easy to love a rich man as a poor man."

in the end I fell for the latter.

My mum used to jokingly tell me and my best friend to marry well and divorce better.

But couldn't have been more tounge in cheek

My mother advised marrying money because "at least you can be miserable in comfort"

Its more comfortable to cry in a Mercedes than on a bicycle

My Mum told me to marry a worker. Because if he ever loses his job he'll sweep roads to support his family.
She also said that when poverty walks in through the door, love flies out the window.

Yep, my family always used to tell me to marry a rich man, but used to tell me, when I was eight, that I'd have to lose weight to snag one, I was always pretty skinny too .
They were also horrified when I announced my engagement to my ex fiance, who was a highly decorated Army General in the South American country I lived in at the time, as clearly he was only marrying me to get into the UK. Ffs.

I heard this from my Mum a lot growing up. It's only recently that I realised this isn't an OK thing to say.

She must be pretty disappointed!

My Mother told us to get ourselves the best education we could.

She said "even if you marry a millionaire you never know what's round the corner and you need to be able to support yourselves and your children."

My form tutor at secondary school told us girls when we went to our careers guidance interview we needed to find out the best paid professions so we knew who to try to marry.

Reminds me of this (excuse poor quality vid)

YANBU but I don't think telling boys that they should grow up to be walking cash machines is a great message either. How about something along the lines of marriage being a partnership of equals?

I used to get told that a lot too. Not by my mum as far as I recall, but lots by her sisters and her cousins. I used to say I was going to win the lottery.

Do boys get any similar message?

A female GP said this to my daughter many years ago. She'd got an infection from a nickel allergy and the GP said she must make sure she married a rich man to buy her gold. I looked quite shocked and said, 'or she could work hard and become a Doctor and buy her own gold.'