To want to avoid known infections?

[RedYellaGreen]

I have an incurable disease that is made severely worse by stress, tiredness or infections.

Last winter I was ill back to back from September to March and it was hell. I've been healthy for a few months now and life is all the more worth living.

However, I would like to avoid known infections and viruses, just because I can. I realise that you can pick up infection anywhere, but there is something about known infection that feels a bit different.

My parents have asked if they can invite a cousin to a day out. I am not included in the day out, but my children are. In fact, the sole purpose of the day out is to give me rest.

The last time they went out with known infection, I caught it and was ill for months. I just can't bear that idea! AIBU to say please don't invite the cousin with the virus? I feel so mean.

[TheseventeenthSixteen]

YANBU. If you have a condition that makes you prone to catching stuff, then you are NU to avoid infections when possible.

I have caught one bug after another over the last 6 months. As soon as I leave the flipping house, after getting over one, I'm going down with another. I'm seriously considering wearing a proper surgical mask on public transport, especially going to new places where you might not have built up any immunity to the viruses currently doing the rounds there. Mine seems to be the result of 6 months of antibiotics. I dread it when I'm near someone who is obviously unwell, because all you can think of is being knocked back off your feet again if you catch it.

[IamtheDevilsAvocado]

From what youve said youre especially susceptible to germs/bugs and really makes you ill fir months on end - horrid for you!

I think you need to be very clear about tje impact in you... I wouldn't relish getting a sore throat BUT it would make me ill for a few days... Not months...

You need especial consideration, anyone that doesnt take account of this is a knob

You are not BU to insist that folks don't come into cintact with you/or DCs when they know they are buggy/symptomatic.