I recently started a night class which I attend once a week. The college I attend at is in a large town which is situated in a county mainly made up of rural towns and villages so many of the students commute up to 50 miles to attend here.
I travel 40 miles by car and another girl in the class travels from the same direction but is only 20 miles away.
On the first night one of the other students loudly suggested that I give public transport girl a lift home As she has to wait 40 minutes on a bus after the class. Put on the spot and not wanting to seem mean, I said I didn't mind taking her home that night, but she ended up leaving before me and never mentioned waiting for a lift.
This week, the student suggested it again, I overheard her saying loudly and pointedly that "it's a shame one of the other girls wont give you a lift to class and back to save you the hassle of getting a bus and waiting about". Public transport girl just shrugged it off.
The thing is, it is sort of on my road home, but it would add about half an hour onto an already long journey and as I live so out of the way I do like to get other things done when I'm in the town if I can make spare time before the class so wont always be travelling at set times.
The girl who takes the bus has never really mentioned wanting a lift herself and in any case she knew what the travel would be like when she signed up for the class.
AIBU to think the pushy one should just keep her nose out and stop trying to guilt trip me into offering this girl a lift?
AIBU?
to think she should give her a lift her fucking self if it's such a wonderful idea?
RedButtonhole · 10/02/2015 12:56
Worth bearing in mind too that most people probably have the same opinion of the pushy one, as you do.
Don't feel pressurised by her. I would enjoy ignoring the big hints, or failing that, smile fakely, and suggest that since she seems so helpful that she should be the one to give a lift... 
, then look amazed when she tries to splutter out that it's not on her route.
Public transport girl is probably 
every time pushy Fucker opens her mouth....
Yanbu but I'd probably offer anyway occasionally
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lights no need to apologise, I didn't take your post in a bad way, I just wanted to re-affirm that I do usually like to help people where I can and usually don't mind if its a little inconvenient. 
I just feel that maybe I have come across as a bit hard-faced because of my annoyance at the pushy one.
It's just that this is happening at the end of an already very long day, she'd need to tag along on errands (i prefer to shop etc. on my own) or I'd have to skip doing them altogether.
hearts I feel the same way, and before I could drive or if I don't have my car I prefer to make my own way on foot or by bus.
Without wanting to sound self-important, life is very very hectic for me at the minute and the time I spend travelling is really the only alone time that I get where I'm not really doing anything else.
I'm another lift-avoider unless I know the person and get on well enough with them to fill the journey with either small talk or comfortable silence.
I have a friend who always wants me to take a taxi home from her house even though I tell her every time I'd rather walk. She refuses to accept it and then says "I'll pay for it" as if I'm too tight to spend money on a taxi which I am but that's not the point Its a 20 minute walk not a fucking marathon.
This went on for years until I completely lost my rag with her and shouted "WHEN WILL YOU GET IT INTO YOUR HEAD THAT I DON'T WANT A FUCKING TAXI" 
It did the trick though, she hasn't mentioned it again and I've been round quite a few times since then.
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