The answer to this is depressingly simple.
Women do not speak out about this because the conversation HAS to involve discussions about the root cause....the doctrines of Islam.
Criticising Islam is a difficult thing to do when you have been told that to do so is "racist" and that we're all supposed to respect "faith".
Are Muslim women speaking out? Some...not many. And given the risks to their personal security, we can't be surprised by that. Some of them are only half speaking out, relying on the "This isn't the real Islam, it's been misinterpreted" - which is not going to ever work because it is completely untrue.
We need to stop using the word "extremists", btw, when it comes to Islamic nutters and start using "literalists". They are taking the doctrines literally - and, given the horrific, blood-thirsty, murderous, racist and sexist teachings contained in the "holy books" - this is truly disastrous.
And is it just a few lone loons? Nope. Millions and millions of Muslims worldwide actively support the idea of death to apostates and adulteresses (often raped women). They may not actively pick up a gun or a stone, but they are cheering on those that do.
The overwhelming attitude to Islam on these boards sickens and astounds me in equal measure.
Here we have women getting their knickers in a twist over ASDA adverts, but who are basically shutting down conversation about the biggest threat to women's safety worldwide by screeching "racist" and "bigot" at those who dare to voice their outrage.
The world should be ROARING about this, not sssshing everyone with bonkers and wrong soundbites about how it's nothing to do with religion and Islam is really very peaceful (which it most assuredly is not).
Every human being deserves to be judged individually for their own actions, and not have to bear responsibility for the behaviour of any other person, even those who identify themselves as belonging to the same religion.
But here's the thing - if any individual Muslim does not support the horror that is carried out in the name of their religion then they need to stand the fuck aside and stop distorting the debate by complaining about their hurt feelings.
If you, personally, do not endorse the doctrines of your religion that clearly and unambiguously condone all of this death and destruction...then we are not talking about YOU. Stop making it about you by by taking offence to perfectly understandable objections to teachings that were invented 1600 years ago.
The doctrines of Islam must start to be dismantled brick by sexist, homophobic, racist brick. It must. It must undergo a period of enlightenment exactly as Christianity has done where most Christians can live comfortably with the idea that not all of the Bible (barely any of it, actually) can be taken literally.
Ridicule and debate will all help that process along. Ridicule of IDEAS, by the way, not necessarily people.
What won't help one little bit, is privileged Westerners , clueless about what a literal reading of these doctrines actually say, and keen to display their inclusiveness and non-racistness to online buddies taking offence on behalf of all the nice Muslims.
And to all Mumsnetters who dared to use the word "but" in relation to the CH murders ("Well, of course no one should have been murdered, but.....the cartoons were offensive/racist/whatever bollocks") then shame on you. That kind of ignorant posturing gives these murderers' a licence to do it again. It justifies what they did. That "but" is all the justification they need. So well done you.
Islam - the collective doctrines and teachings of a religion born in the middle ages - is directly and clearly responsible for the suffering of millions upon millions of women and girls today.
You'd think the feminists of MumsNet would be yelling their disapproval every chance they get. But the silence is deafening.