...to refuse any more parcels for next door neighbours?

[Justmuddlingalong]

I think my next door neighbours have put me down as the official 'taker-inner' of their parcels, without asking. I am at home during the day, so always take in parcels. But it's getting ridiculous. I've taken in 2 separate deliveries today alone, for next door. They work all day, Mon-Fri, so the postman and numerous delivery drivers knock on my door, and I'm getting pissed off with it. When they get home, I take the parcels to their door, where I get a grunt in what I presume is thanks. Dp is nightshift, so it's annoying him too. I don't want to be unneighbourly, but should I just start refusing to take in next door's many parcels?

[SoupDragon]

I would stop, yes.

I don't mind taking parcels in for my neighbours but that's because they are all nice and grateful when I take them round or they collect them.

However, I've decided that I won't be taking them in for my new neighbours as they have mightily pissed me off with their noisy house renovation and the fact that they couldn't be arsed to introduce themselves and mention it.

It's all about neighbourliness and yours don't sound very neighbourly!

[Branleuse]

i take them in for my neighbours, but in the last house i lived in, I had a massive fucking kitchen thing delivered. Postie talked me into taking it. It sat in my hall for two days before i managed to catch them in, and they grunted at me that it was expensive and theyd have rather collected from depot.
I just told the postman the next time that the neighbours were unappreciative and hard to get hold of and i wasnt happy to take in any more for them. He said that was fine and didnt ask again

[LisaMed]

My neighbour sometimes takes in parcels. I live on the internet, everything is delivered - groceries, clothes, everything.

I give my neighbour presents on random occasions. I thank them lots and lots. I make a huge fuss of them because they do me such a massive favour. I should add there are no newborns next door atm and no-one on shifts, and usually someone outside working on a car.

Seriously, don't take the parcels. Just a brief note on the door stating, 'please note, parcels for number x will not be accepted'. It may be helpful to put a note through next door's letterbox to state you are no longer accepting their parcels. Though it may mean you aren't on Christmas card terms, though it sounds like you aren't anyway.

[expatinscotland]

Stop taking them in!

'Not accepting deliveries for any other address. Do NOT knock. Nightshift worker sleeping. Ignoring this note will result in complaint to your employer. Thank you.'

[kaykayred]

You ANBU if they are total rude bastards about it, and didn't ask your permission to being with. You aren't their bloody butler.

Put a sign on the door saying "We will not accept deliveries for other addresses, thank you".

Your neighbours probably put you down because you are running it over to them like some sort of personal delivery service! Stop accepting the parcels in the first place!

If your neighbours have the gall to complain, you can say "Not once have you asked permission to divert your mail to our address. Not once have you thanked me for bringing over your parcels. We have a baby and a night shift worker in our house and our lives are not subject to your convenience."

[Justmuddlingalong]

They moved in last summer. And they never bothered to give us a Christmas card. So I've really got nothing to lose have I?

[o0]

I would stop.

I've stopped taking in parcels for one of my neighbours as they had lots of deliveries but not once came and picked them up. They are all fit and able while I have a disability so it irritated me beyond belief. They are nice enough people just selfish in this one way.

I still take in for all my other neighbours.

[somewheresomehow]

We had this problem with our neighbors, they almost automatically had stuff brought to us when they were out and sometimes when someone was in.
She never came round herself either, she used to send the old odd job/dogsbody round after a few days. In the end I told one driver to take it back to the depot as I was so fed up with them coming here.
funnily enough we haven't had any parcels [apart from our own] since.

[expatinscotland]

They can have it delivered to their work, or click and collect or have it dropped off to one of those lockers.

[hellsbellsmelons]

I would knock and tell them that taking their deliveries is not convenient.
Explain that DP works nights and it disturbs him and ask them to get deliveries sent to their work addresses!
That's what most of us working folk have to do.
Let them know that you will be refusing them from now on and putting a note on your door to tell delivery companies not to knock unless it's for your own address.

[onthematleavecountdown]

You don't need to tell them. Next time postie knocks tell him your not taking it. If it is different delivery drivers put a card on door somewhere that says you won't accept parcels for others, hopefully then they won't even ring your bell.

[OnlyLovers]

Well, I take in parcels for the neighbours quite a lot because I work at home. I don't mind; it's neighbourly. HOWEVER, mine are more pleasant and grateful and don't just grunt when they collect them/I take them round, so in your case YANBU.

[Justmuddlingalong]

Thanks for all the comments. I'm going to put a wee sign on my door. I feel a bit mean, but hey ho!

[Fairyfellowsmasterstroke]

Buy something like this from Amazon and put a message that no neighbours deliveries will be accepted.

[SistersOfPercy]

I wouldn't mind quantity but I abhor the rudeness of a grunt.

Many many years ago I took a parcel for the people across the road. DD was a baby at the time, middle of winter and she was cranky so by the time DH came home from work it was about 6.15 when I knocked on their door. His response was "What bloody time do you call this? I've been waiting for this you should have bought it sooner". I threw his parcel at him and over the years have now refused many requests to take in his crap, as have the neighbours.

I was a lot younger and stupider then, if I'd come across his attitude now he'd have gotten what for.

[expatinscotland]

They never told you, so I would not bother telling them. Just a wee sign, 'Not accepting deliveries for other addresses. Please do not knock unless delivering to this address, nightshift worker sleeping. Thank you.'

They say anything, you just say you are not taking parcels for anyone.

[StarOnTheTree]

chaosagain

[TheWitTank]

Agree with the note on the door -'we don't accept parcels for other addresses -thank you'. If anyone knocks, ignore or just say no. I happily accept parcels for my neighbours, as they do for me, but we profusely thank each other and we pop around to pick up straight away if possible. I have nice neighbours luckily!

[lalalonglegs]

We used to live in a converted flat and the woman upstairs would order stuff, have neighbours take it in and then absolutely refuse to collect it from them. They had to come to her and even then she was difficult and might refuse to answer the door. My next door neighbour naively took in a big item from Argos and kept trying to get this woman to pick it up but she absolutely wouldn't. My neighbour then got a letter from Argos saying that the customer wanted to return the item and would she mind waiting in all day for their delivery driver to pick it up ?

[Mousefinkle]

We have this with our neighbours too. Over the christmas period (from mid November onwards) we were practically taking one in a day. They always send their ten-ish year old around to collect them as well and he just sort of grunts thanks and walks off. I only bothered answering the door to the postie because I was expecting parcels too otherwise I wouldn't have. The man did pop around to collect one a few days before Christmas and gave us a card saying thanks though... Taken one in this month.

It's annoying because in my head I think "why bother shopping online if you know you'll never be in to take the delivery?!" Get it delivered to work or named day delivery... Mind you, they're never around on Saturdays either so fuck knows. Like I say, if I didn't order a lot of shit online myself I'd never open the door. Always on edge waiting for them to collect it too..

[DidoTheDodo]

I am deeply grateful that all the neighbours in our terrace do take parcels in for one another. And I hope I say "thank you" to them enough.

It really is a godsend for us.

[biggles50]

How rude some people are! You wouldn't mind if they were polite. Yes a note on the door is a good idea particularly because of night shifts.

[LilMissSunshine9]

I felt bad for my neighbour as he works from home so takes deliveries for me and my neighbour and the neighbour on the other side of him. I did give him a box of chocolates last year and since then have whatever I can carry delivered to work.

[LilMissSunshine9]

Well the reason I stopped was because once his son was visiting and made a bit of cheeky comment about charging me for holding things. His mum did rebuke him for being rude but since then I have made sure I am either in myself or have it sent to work.