YADNBU !!!!!!
Another with EDSH here, diagnosed unofficially several times over, (POTs & other symptoms confirmed) but as I am no longer Hypermobile, so won't pass a Beighton Scire test any more, so getting it official is a journey to say the least. My kidneys are shot thanks to it all & I have list of other comorbid stuff, & I was told yesterday that my STILL being stuck in bed with a bad flu virus, weeks after everyone else recovered, is down the EDS too
DD who is only 12 has it too, she was diagnosed with JHMS, but I was finding it hard to get school & medical specialists & even our GP at the time to fully understand what that really meant. So I paid for her to see Dr Ninis, who diagnosed it as EDSH with POTs, Dysautonomia & Gastroparesis - which at least means we are getting somewhere
Puberty kicking in has stolen the person she was & it's heartbreaking to see, she struggles so much, with so much as you know too well, but I know we are lucky really in that we don't spontaneously dislocate like you, though realise we both do sublux a lot - especially DD, but POTs anxiety, when you are only 12 & have no living memory of "normal" is a bitch, my ultra tough, bright, bubbly gregarious girl, turns into a jumpy, depressive frightened rabbit during flares. It's so hard right now, as she has suffered bullying in the past because of others not understanding & so she pushes through, pretends to be "normal" & makes it all worse :(
So YADDDDDNBU & I'm just sorry you all cope with this too :(
I do agree with comments above that diet makes a difference & can take that further - turns out we are prone to allergies because of mast cell abnormalities - DD has suffered bad with what was thought to be IBS - frequently at school with severe stomach pain & daily diarrhoea.
Long story short, she ended up in hospital & after an initial battle, we were lucky to be passed on to a Gastro who was knowledgeable in EDS & the allergy link, he diagnosed a blockage caused by Gastroparesis & allergic colitis caused by a delayed action allergy - this turned out to be a soy allergy - which is in way more than you realise - her stomach trouble is 80% improved
She also had to go dairy free for a while, they thought that might be her allergy - she isn't CMP allergic BUT she noticed her aches & pains improved- looking into dairy production & even just the hormones in it, it makes so much sense when EDS is affected by hormones
She has cut down on dairy a lot, eats it only a few times a week & this helps too
Also turmeric is fantastic stuff, especially taken alongside coconut oil & black pepper - we both find it helps