I have workmen in at the moment and am freelancing as well. The noise/disruption has been so great today that I need to work now they are gone.
DH has just left for the gym. Between him coming home from work and leaving for the gym - about half an hour - he wouldn't shut up. "Oooh, the floor, so that's what they've done. Where are my gym shoes? Oh, here are my shoes. I do actually really like these shoes, so much better than the last pair. I will pop in and get some milk on may way back, didn't on my way home because..." you get the picture. Not exactly talking to me, but expecting me to listen and reply in some form. Ignoring fact that I am working. Eventually I snapped and told him to give me some piece and quiet because it was obvious that I was working (sitting at desk, on laptop!).
He has form for this. He simply can't resist coming to speak to me when I am working - to tell me that my favourite programme is about to start (I know that, that's why it's being recorded and the sky button turned blue). To tell me about the new routine he's trying at the gym, or something he saw on his way home. I love him dearly but it is always inconsequential stuff and it is not as if I am always working (I always stop by eight).
He doesn't get - and has never got - the usual sort of signals people give out "uh huhs" when you don't look up, "just a minute please dear" sorts of things, so every single time I lose it. Not shouting and screaming but a very firm "leave me alone". And then he gets sad or put out. On particularly frustrating occassions he will take himself off to do Noisy Tidying.
He does this when I read for leisure at weekends as well. I don't mind if he wants either to start a conversation or to ask me a one-off question, but I really resent being interrupted by this inane gabble.
AIBU and/or a complete bitch? (No kids BTW so not like I have to fend this off from toddlers as well).
AIBU?
Getting DH to STFU
dancingwithmyselfandthecat · 01/09/2014 19:57
My dh has turned into a bloody lark hes up at 6 and by the time I get up at 7 he is wide awake I go into the kitchen put the kettle on and he start s talking just saying stuff this morning it was about taking his work van to one place before he started a job and how much a faff blah blah fucking blah I just wanted my coffee in peace and to plot how to kill him 
"in return I don't mind when he glazes over when I talk about does."
Ficklebynurture are you obsessed by female rabbits??
My DH was doing this at midnight the other night. Asking me loads of questions about an event that's happening in about two months that I didn't know the answer to. I told him I didn't know after the first question, but no he had to carry on with other white noise questions. He may have had a sharp word in his ear about delaying my sleeping time with his rubbish .
Tbf he's not normally like that.
It is pretty thoughtless though. It's like you are there to entertain him and when your focus is elsewhere it has to be brought back to him.
OP you have the patience of a living saint. I simply wouldnt be able to stand anyone talking at me like that whilst Im working, the fact that its a man/OH wouldnt somehow prevent me from feeling that way and voicing it somewhere..better to say it here in an anonymous venting space than to directly to him or your RL friends/family, I guess 
I'm with Ditzy. I think this is a really disrespectful way to talk about your partner, especially as from what I can see he's just trying to engage with the OP.
Clearly you've never been talked at before. If you had, you'd know there is a huge difference between someone wanting to talk to you, and just wanting to think out loud for the sake of it. Your input doesn't matter, they just want to hear their own voice.
I really doubt you'd still be paying attention after 10 minutes of them continuously talking about nothing. Don't think you're above this, you'd tune them out like the rest of us. 
Really though, what is it with having to show all the groceries? 
I thought DH was the only one that did this.
I can be guilty of this sometimes. I grew up in a v talkative family where everyone interrupts each other/talks constantly/talks over the top of each other. (Having been with DH for 13 years I now find my family's constant talking v draining.) Once, years ago, on a road trip I talked for 16 minutes non-stop about a doco I had seen on the Exclusive Brethren. I never even noticed that DH was not participating in the conversation - he pointed out the length of my monologue to me afetrwards 
I particularly try to talk to DH when we are lying in bed reading - well he is reading and I want to talk (tends to be because he always nicks my copy of the Economist and hogs it for bedtime reading).
He deals with it ignoring me or telling me to STFU. If, rarely, the roles are reversed, I do the same.
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