Husband working abroad for 3 years

[womanofdulwich]

So he has a great job offer. I will not move with him though I will visit. I just finding sleeping by myself really hard.I have tried putting electric blanket on on his side of the bed and pretending it is him but its just not the same. any one care to share any tips?

Did I miss the bit where OP's DH said he didn't want her to move too?

I think that you will probably just get used to it after he has been gone for a bit of time...

I would ignore people's negative comments. DH lived abroad for three years near the beginning of our relationship (we had been going out for a year before he went). We phoned each other a lot, and emailed and we are still together more than twenty years later. I good relationship will survive a bit of time apart.

I think a lot of people are shocked and rather inquisitive about long distance relationships that demonstrably 'work'. We did an international commute six months a year for seven of the last ten years (one of us travelled every second weekend), and people's responses could be quite strange. It suited us, as we were both very work-focused, and we have been happy together for more than 20 years.

If it works for some couples then go for it, but the OP doesn't sound happy about it and three years is a long time to see out a decision you aren't happy about.