Are there double standards in the media regarding DV?

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Melaine Sykes is featuring in OK magazine, after recently accepting a police caution for an assault on her then husband.

AIBU to think a man who did the same to his wife wouldn't be back on the front page?

Charges weren't brought against Fassbender were they? I know there were accusations.

Who is he? Celeb?

Oh, Xman... Ooh!

What it shows is that if a woman is pretty enough to sell a magazine by being on the cover, then nothing else she has done is of much importance.

The Fassbender accusations (which were dropped very quickly) did always sound a bit dodgy, to be honest (and I'm not generally into victim-blaming). IIRC there are details around the ex-girlfriend's having been repeatedly photographed looking absolutely fine at a time when according to her petition she had just (within last 24 hours) had her nose broken, and that Fassbender's filming schedule didn't leave room for the other incident described in the court petition to have happened. He's certainly never been arrested or convicted of anything -- his ex filed for a restraining order months after they split, while they were living on different continents, detailing a string of allegations, then withdrew the petition within a few days without ever producing any evidence.

If she had pressed charges fassbender would have been denied a visa for the US and been unable to work. Apparently she didn't want to damage his future so dropped charges. I can't imagine any pressure was put on her to do this at all

It wasn't "charges", though -- a restraining order is a different matter. I'm not saying I'm totally convinced of MF's innocence, but there are some not-insignificant questions over whether he even could as a matter of practical fact (e.g. whereabouts over the time period in question) have done the things alleged, enough that I'm not about to start Urghing about his friends continuing to be friends with him. Many of the other people namechecked here have been arrested/charged/cautioned/convicted or at least admitted what happened.

I think there are double standards in normal life as well as the media. I have a male friend who is married to a woman who frequently hits him etc. She's done it in public and no one has ever tried to stop her. I tried to get him to leave her and everyone around us said that I was terrible and a vile person for trying to split them up. I'm not sure this would have been the case if he had been hitting her.