to ask you if you went through some really rough patches with your partner after baby?

[Toizzy]

that's it really, would like to hear people's experiences

[Nunyabiz]

Sounds like he's going through a bit of a... What's the word... Upheaval I suppose. I actually wouldn't be surprised if he realises soon what he is throwing away. Hope it's not too late.

[parentalunit]

OP some things that helped with the sleep deprivation... co-sleeping with the baby, and you can breastfeed lying down with the baby at the right level. Here are some tips kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/familybed/

Carry on with feeding to sleep, there is absolutely nothing wrong with this from what I've read, heard and experienced. Ignore the baby manuals, as your baby has not read them!

There is a thing called dreamfeeding...just before you go to sleep yourself (let's say, 11pm) gently pick up your sleeping baby, and latch the baby on to your breast. If you hover the baby's mouth around your nipple, the baby will latch on and start feeding. Once the baby has fallen asleep again, go to sleep yourself. You just bought yourself a couple more hours of sleep, because your baby's tummy is full for a while. It's so scary the first few times you do it, but it really works and saved my sanity :)

Night weaning is not a magic bullet. Here are some more tips kellymom.com/parenting/nighttime/weaning-night/

Ask your husband to do bath time, which includes bathing, getting the baby ready for bed, and reading a story or two. During this time, you sleep. He brings the baby into the bed and places it next to you or in the co-sleeper.

Ask your husband to take over for a 4-hour period at the weekend. Getting 4 hours in one stretch is an achievable goal. Your child will not suffer. If you can pump some milk beforehand for your husband to have on hand, so much the better.

Batch cook. Make double/triple portions of meals, and freeze the extras. Saves you time on cooking, which can be spent sleeping :)

There are lots more things, this is just what I remember at the moment. My thoughts are with you, hope you figure something out.

[parentalunit]

Ooh and routine...bedtime routine really helped ours to get into a rhythm. Pick a routine that works for you, and that you can manage every day. Ours was dinner usually a very messy affair, bath, brush teeth, a couple of stories, nursed on one side, turn on soft baby music, nurse on other side, falls asleep, placed in cot.

We also use a grobag sleeping blanket, which I think helps to regulate temperature and prevent limbs from getting stuck in the cot rails although I could be wrong...this is just my experience

12 hour diapers are also worth of a nobel prize. We only use them at night time because goodness knows what kind of chemicals are in them but they drastically reduced the wakeups from a wet nappy.

Good luck.

[parentalunit]

Sorry to keep posting like this...but breastfeeding in my experience is a bit of an emotional thing. My hormones were all over the place the whole time, and it was like having permanent PMS and I didn't go back to normal weight until it was over with. It's a rollercoaster, perhaps your partner doesn't realize this.