I very rarely if ever 'bitch' about people but have noticed that most people women talk negatively behind people's backs. I have experienced this a lot in my last two jobs but also often in 'mum' settings, like toddler group or preschool. I know lots of people do this to de-stress or big themselves up as they are probably feeling insecure, frazzled, grumpy or whatever. I also feel these thing too often but don't feel right at all about putting others down behind their back.
I have two issues with this type of negative gossip: (1) I don't enjoy 'bitching' and can't really bring myself to join this type of conversation so end up in a self-imposed outsider weirdo role. This eats at my own self esteem. (2) I cannot really trust the people who talk like that as I am convinced they must say things about me to others.
The thought that a group of people make fun of me behind my back or put me down really freaks me out. I have never really been bullied but also never was miss popular. So I can't quite explain my apprehension.
Please tell me your coping tips for dealing with this type of negative gossiping. Or tell me that I am being oversensitive/dramatic and it's all just harmless 'fun' and just a normal form of human communication .
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Katyahejkatya · 10/05/2014 22:33
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