To feel like the worlds worst mother for considering taking ds to nursery today. WWYD

[Filimou]

DS (3) sent home yesterday morning as he was sick. Was sick again at lunchtime but been fine ever since, playing around ate some crackers.
This morning he seems fine again playing around but hasnt had any breakfast (drank a large glass of milk though).
Tells you hes better then tells you hes not.
The whole time he was sick he didnt have a temp or seem ill (usually goes quiet/sleepy just generally not himself) so likely hed eaten something his body didnt like.
Heres the awful part. I have massive work pressure at the moment and a huge deadline tomorrow.I can work at home today (two mins walk from nursery). DH only one in so cant take day off and I have noone else to ask.
I just want to cry because I dont know what to do for the best.
I cant realistically work at home with ds here either. ARGH!!!!!!

[Coveredinweetabix]

OP - remember it is a 48hr rule & not a two day rule so, if your DS is otherwise well, he could go back to nursery for Friday afternoon. A few weeks ago, DD was sick at nursery just after lunch so I went to collect her, took the next day off, worked from home the following morning & dropped her off 48hrs and 5 mins after she'd been sick meaning I could then work form home in peace that afternoon. Nursery were surprised to see her as they were used to people making an alternative arrangement for an entire day but agreed that there was no reason why they couldn't take her. She had been sick just that once, was otherwise full of beans and eating properly (including a second lunch an hour or so after having been sick) and nursery had remembered that the previous time she'd been sick at nursery had been after having rice pudding which they'd also had that day so we were all pretty convinced it was eating that rather than a bug which had made her ill.

[RubyrooUK]

Glad you kept him off OP. Our families live miles and miles away too so we never have extra cover when either child is sick and off nursery. So maximum empathy and sympathy here.

[SoonToBeSix]

Your dh could take the day of , it's illegal for an employee not to give him 24 hours off to find alternative childcare.

[mrscog]

Sorry to be the bearer of more bad news but DS had this last week and was only sick at 24-36 hour intervals! I ended up working from home the whole week!

[WoodBurnerBabe]

Filimou, I've been there. I hope he feels better soon. On another note, your DH needs to think about what is going to happen when your DS is in school - is he never going to be able to have holiday in school holiday times if this other person nabs it all?

[Filimou]

Thanks abbie.
I knew as soon as Id put it I was BU as its not fair on him and certainly not on others, after all I dont want to make anyone else poorly, but this morning I was tired and not thinking straight and desperate.

[Abbierhodes]

Will people read the thread: she's not taking him in!!

OP, if you resign yourself to an evening of working, then you'll feel better about snuggling up with your boy today.

Shit situation, I had the same a couple of weeks ago- DH and I both had vital stuff on at work and DS was sick. We took half a day each but it was very hard to organise. And then you add in the guilt you feel

[mummyto2boysandagirl3]

I feel for u op it must b an awful situation to b in I watched ppl I worked with coming in due to pressure at work when they're kids were really really sick and they at least had grandparents to leave them with. I'm incredibly lucky that I can sah and this dilemma isn't something I have to deal with. Please don't think I'm judging u cos I understand it must b so hard for working mums when their dc r poorly.

But please if ur dc is sick or poorly in anyway keep them off nursery. Ur dc has coped well with this but this could well have made my younger 2 poorly enough for a hospital admission. That's what the rule for keeping them off is there for to protect the other children. Really wish some of the parents at my ds2s nursery even thought about it like u have this morning they just stick them in and run off then refuse to come and collect when they get the inevitable phone call. Hope ur ds is feeling better soon and u can get some of ur work done

[Filimou]

sunny please read the thread I have already admitted that I knew straight away I needed to be home and so have worked around it. Also that I have no-one. Really I dont.

[Sunnysummer]

He's ill. And quite likely contagious. You know how much your position sucks right now? If you take him in you'll be putting many other parents in just the same position, and potentially some in a much worse position, especially if their DC(s) are immune suppressed in any way.

Grandparents? Friends? Emergency nanny? Work from home with a Peppa Pig DVD in the background?

[MrsPixieMoo]

I really feel for you and have been in this situation. I got an emergency nanny for the day from an agency and worked from home all day. I was honest about what had happened - vomited once the day before, seemed to be coming right but not 100%- and she happily came in those circumstances. It was a massive stress relief, DD loved the one to one attention and I got my work done.

[Edenviolet]

X post. Glad you kept him home.

[Edenviolet]

Please stick to the 48 hr rule.

I have a dd who is diabetic and if she catches a d+v bug she has to be hospitalised. There could be other children or parents at your ds nursery who have serious health problems and it really isn't fair to potentially spread it around to others.

Its horrible when dcs are ill and you are busy, I would take the advice of other posters-DVD or cbeebies and hopefully you will get done what you need to whilst ds is watching.

Hope your ds feels better soon

[Groovee]

In our nursery he would be excluded for 48 hours after the last lot of sickness. It's hard as a working parent but it's there for a reason.

[ifyourehoppyandyouknowit]

It's so hard OP. Esp when you have no back up childcare or family around. Hope you manage to get some work done.

[WheresMeJumperOhNo]

I'm glad you didn't take him. I know it's really really hard in situations like this when you need the DC to be in childcare. My very dear friend is currently 4 weeks into an 8 week course of chemotherapy and she has 3yo twins in nursery. It would be devastating for her if they were willingly exposed to a vomiting bug and then passed it to her, too.

[Balaboosta]

Hate these threads. Don't send him. He's ill. He's not eating. There's a bug like this going round with no fever. If other kiddies catch it their mummies will be in the position you are now. And they may have even more on their plates than you. Please don't be selfish.

[Filimou]

Have also checked with nursery, their rule is 24 hours after he was last sick.

[extracrunchy]

48hr rule! YABU.

[Littlefish]

Sorry - cross posted with you. It'd definitely the right decision to keep him off. Good luck with getting your report done later.

[Littlefish]

Please don't even consider taking him in. It is quite horrifying the speed at which a vomiting or diarrhea bug is passed around a nursery setting.

Last half term almost half the children and all the staff in the nursery where I work caught it. We still had parents trying to bring their child back the day after a omitting incident, telling us it was just excitement/something they ate/because they were coughing.

Please keep your ds off for 48 hours after the last incident - so, that would be Friday afternoon for your ds.

[WoodBurnerBabe]

Sorry, I think you'll find nursery won't take him. 48 hours is the usual rule. It does suck, I have similar work issues sometimes, and there is no good solution in my experience...

[Filimou]

I think I knew as soon as I had typed it I was BU.
Ive taken today off...kind of. DH cant take the day off, he works in an office with one other person and they never work school holidays (soon as leave is available to book they take christmas, half terms/easter and bits of summer hols).
DHs mum/dad (his only family) cant take him as they both work and all of my family live the best part of 200 miles away.
Dh can finish at 4, will be home by 430 so I can plod on with my report when he gets home.

[Tailtwister]

As others have said, the nursery won't take him today anyway.

The only think you can do is try and do your best with working from home today. Is there anyone you can ask to support you in the office to ease the pressure a bit? if people know you're up against it but doing your best to meet your work commitments anyway, they're usually quite helpful.

When one of ours is sick I make a nest in my office for them and give them the iPad (with headphones). I've had a couple of dodgy moments during client calls, but mostly people are understanding if you explain the situation beforehand.

Good luck!

[inlawsareasses]

Mine was once sick at school because she was sat next to the bin with all the leftovers/slop going in, 48 hrs off school- not a bug just weak stomached! That was annoying!