more of wwyd.. creepy man

[wonderingsoul]

this happened yesterday, at the time i was freaked out and quite tearfull.. i suffer from anxity as it is, and this set me off!

friday i ordered pizza from just eat website, the guy drops it off and starts chatting me up .. besides the fact that only a creep would chat some one up infront of thier two young children he set of my creep o mtere as it where.

any way.. i laughed it of as some sad creep.

fast forward to last night, where i get a phone call on my mobile.
its the same guys. he first starts off with "hi, its me. did you order a pizza tonight, as our computers are play up yeah ok i say no than he goes on to says " how are you, how are the kids, i dont feel you should be alone, i am worried about you"

i hanged up.

im a lone parent so its just me and the boys in m y flat. it really freaked me out. then i thought hang on, hes had to go through records to get my phone number, as i had ordered from a third party site just eat.

he than phones back about 30-40 minutes later with out listenign to what he is saying i say " stop calling me your creeping me out" and hang up.

iv told some really life friends and tried to laugh it off, some have said that i need to report him to the police or at least the company.

once my anxty had clamed down, i wasnt as freaked out and panicing.. should i?

what if i do and he loses hes job or gets disaplined and than trys to get his own back, he knows where i live and my mobile.

i had tried to talk to my best friend but i get the impression she thinks im being a drama queen and shoudl just laugh it off.

[foslady]

Just read this and really pleased for you that you've had a good end to it. Rather than changing your number, why not store it in your phone as 'obnoxious creep' so if it comes up again you'll know not to answer it?

[wonderingsoul]

doubt bloody hell! that is proper stalkerish, i think that would have me wanting to move house!. im so glad you did contact the police, on both of them!

i think i feel guilty becasue.. i dont know.. it doesnt seem that bad.. some one pushing his luck.. but not getting the big hints.. i dunno. (in my situation. deff not yours, id be right down the police station over both of them)

[BrianTheMole]

Well done op. I'd consider calling the police as well just so they are aware. And keep your door locked. I don't want to worry you, but better to be safe.

[wonderingsoul]

i have just got of the phone to the manager, he couldnt apogise enough and thanked me for having courage to complain. he kept saying how angry he is over it and can not get over it, that there are rules about using numbers for anything else other than dilivery info.

he has assured me that he will no longer work for them and will be fired tonight, he is also going to sit his staff down for a meeting to talk about this, and drum home that behaviour like this wont be tolerated.
if i have any more problems to just phone chilli hut and ask for him.

i feel happy that iv done it and its been delt with.

thank you for hand holding/push, it was what i needed.

[Doubtfuldaphne]

I've had this happen and it creeped me out too as I was also a single mum and jumped at every noise outside at night.
I'd had flowers delivered to my house which was great but it just had a mobile number attached. I sent a text to say thank you but who are you? I then had questions from him and he finally told me who he was. I was shocked someone who was paid to deliver something to my house had taken my information and used it this way. I should never have text the number because he then had my number.
I then received a very unpleasant photograph from him. He had his uniform on in the photo so was easy to identify.
The police were informed straight away and they took it very seriously. The fact he had sent this photo could've implied that he was planning on more. They arrested him and he got in to trouble at work mainly for breaking the data protection laws.
The police will take it seriously if you tell them. Please tell them. Men can't go on thinking they can act this way
I also had another one years later! He came in to my shop while I was alone and came behind the counter and would not leave. He was harassing me and I told the police again. He was also arrested and he had a history of sexual assaults.
I don't feel guilty for calling the police on either of these idiots.

[exhaustedmummymoo]

Don't feel guilty you did the write thing. And you are not drama queen, that kind of behaviour would creep me out too!

[wonderingsoul]

hi, thank you, i didnt think when i copied it. i will ask them to remove that part.

dusty yes, copied and pasted, it was from thier online chat help, which may be why?
havnt heard from the owbner/manager yet. will give them till tomorrow evening before taking it further? would that be suitable?

[DustyBaubles]

Wonderingsoul, was that reply copied verbatim?

It doesn't come across as having been very professionally written. If I'd received a reply like that, I'm not sure I'd trust them to deal with it well.

If I were you, I'd call 101 and see what they say.

[dollymixedup]

Wonderingsoul - well done on contacting them, I hope things get sorted now.

If you're not happy with the manager response - I'd contact just eat again and use the 101 number to speak to the police.

[HauntedNoddyCar]

I've already reported to MNHQ to ask them to edit out the names for op's anonymity

[PenguinBear]

I'D*

And you did the right thing by reporting :)

[PenguinBear]

If ask MN to delete your name off the above post!

[FrequentFlyerRandomDent]

Please do not feel guilty. Protect yourself and your family. Always. You did the right thing. He knows your address and phone number. I would have done the same and report.

It happened to me after I called a mortgage broker. I was well freaked out as he know everything about me, address, birthdate, earnings, outgoings, etc. fortunately he never turned up.

Get a male friend to do your voice mail message and filter messages from unknown numbers?

[wonderingsoul]

iv talking to just eat. they agree its not on and are contacting the company and talking to the onwer of the shop.

shall see what happens, buti an feel anxity coming, and real sence of guilt that he could lose his job, even though lodgically i know he was in the wrong. does that make sence?

[Hegsy]

Just eat won't do anything they are just a middle man, better to contact the take away also he wouldn't have had to go look for your mobile number - when a takeaway accepts an order the customer mobile number automatically prints at the bottom and generally this is the slip drivers are given. I know that even though we put our orders into the till we still give drivers customers numbers in case they get lost/no one answers the door.

But definitely contact the takeaway I know if this was one of our drivers they'd be out

[drnoitall]

He is acting like a creep.
Agree with everyone else, report him.

[yolothankgod]

Police & make sure you keep your door locked .

Also block his number

[wonderingsoul]

dolly. i hadnt thought of that. i will try just eat, lot easier to email them the problem. so its not face to face.

thank you.

and thank you every one, i feel little less.. guilty for compalining.

[PoorOldCat]

Ok, I know exactly why you are scared to report this.

Fwiw last time this happened to me, I did report it - the boss came round and wanted to see the messages, I showed him. He said it would never happen again and the guy kept his job as he didn't have form for this sort of thing, which was good as it meant he behaved himself and didn't come round trying to intimidate me. I had changed my number though already so don't know if he stopped trying.

It all depends on luck really but if he wants to keep his job and they want to let him, that might work out for the best as then he has something to lose iyswim.

I would call the police on 101 and report it, so it is logged. They won't approach the guy unless you want them to. His company will though if you contact them.

[wonderingsoul]

he does. when he droped the food of friday he said "so its just you here then, no valintine" my 8 year old quickly chipped in with "its just us, were haing pizza as a treat" something along thous lines.
took the pizza and shut the door as quickly as possable.

but i do have a male friend that i could take with me to the take out, i think that owuld make me more comfortable. if he knows that theres a male around may not be tempted to call back once he gets into trouble from his employer.

i know i should tell at lest the company, just getting the guts to do so. liek i said i suffer from anxity and things liek this are quite hard to do, i really dont liek confrontation.

[mindthegap01]

I agree-report him to his employer and the police. And I agree it's a good idea to get a male friend to make the call to his work demanding to know why his girlfriend's being harassed. Good luck!

[wightjellybaby]

Yup report him and the take away shop you ordered from to trading standards (through local council) its not right for them to contact you like that. Block the number on ur fone then the mosst hell get is your ancwerfone and you get taped message you can take to the police if it comes to it.

[emptychair]

Echo everyone else. Complain to boss and police. X