AIBU to be a bit surprised that grown ups really care about Valentine's Day?

[TheresLotsOfFarmyardAnimals]

Just look at all the threads! If it is really important to you that your DH is romantic and vice versa, shouldn't it be all year round?

We aren't what I'd call romantic but a couple of times a year I get flowers from DH or I take him out for dinner etc. I just don't understand why it has to be on a set day?

It was important to me when I was 16 and undoubtedly NOT getting a valentines card from anyone though. I'm not entirely sure when it changed but I'd reckon by 18 I was over it.

[PoirotsMoustache]

I only do it now because I spent the first 33 years of my life (bar one single, solitary year) not getting or doing anything, even when I was in a 'relationship'. So I'm kind of making up for it now

[zeebaneighba]

YABU - why is it that fun stuff is apparently just for kids/the young? Why should you stop courting your spouse? I love the little celebrations through the year, it helps me be present and not take things for granted. I think there should be a Grown-Ups Fun Day just to stop everyone becoming miserable old codgers - complete with fairy bread, bouncy castles, lucky dips and water fights.

By the way we celebrate Valentine's Day but not with expensive stuff, sometimes a bottle of wine with our movie, homemade cards etc. This year I got DH food from his home country. And we genuinely like doing it and can't understand the grown ups who expend SO much energy railing about it being crap.

[VelmaD]

YANBU in that you can wonder and question different opinions but YABU to think we all have to think the same as you.

I used to pretend I didnt do valentines when I was married, because my exhusband was shite at it once we were married. But he wasn't romantic at all once we were married, and dont even get me started on his behaviour when I had the children.

But now I have a wonderful boyfriend, who brought me flowers and a card. And told me he was taking me out for dinner because he wanted to spoil me (I often cook for him)

We do a lot of romantic stuff, all year round, but valentines to me is a little bit special. And it makes me happy. I dont care that im 32.

[Lottiedoubtie]

I don't celebrate adult birthdays, and any adult who does is just an overgrown child, birthdays aren't achievements. No one should expect a fuss made of them at any time of year.

Mothers and fathers days were invented by card companies and pointless because I have perfect children who treat me well all year.

My DH only buys me flowers and chocolates when they are reduced because it shows he loves me when he wants to and not when hallmark says he should so we don't do valentines day.

Christmas is just for children, who should get no more than 3 presents each and be grateful for it.

I don't go to weddings if they are rude enough to have a gift list, how dare anyone assume anyone wants to buy them anything ever?

I live in a joyless world but at least I win the mumsnet debates on this topic.

skis off the moral high ground, eating the RL chocolates DH gave me yesterday, looking forward to my annual day trip for my birthday next month, and browse a friends gift list, actually I prefer it down here in real life

[thinking101]

I kind of agree OP

Its nice to do something even if it just cooking favourite meal at home. But I have also learnt in 9 years of marriage not to put too much stock into these things. These are not the things that make or break a marriage.

Its not very romantic but DH works v v long hours I often just plan stuff to do inc my birthday. We are quite practical about present buying too.

[thinking101]

Actualy I think if you are an adult in the first throws its an excuse to be all loved up and do something a bit special.

[feelingvunerable]

Well said Velma.

[Knackeredmum13]

I hate valentines day! Mainly because it's my birthday and seeing every fucker on Facebook showing off about their fabulous flowers and gifts just rubs my face in how unspoilt I've been by DH on my birthday.

[afterthought]

I like Valentines day. DP and I don't go mad - we exchanged cards, I got him some chocolates and his present to me was cooking us a lovely dinner on Friday night (DP and I share the cooking 50/50 but I always do Fridays so it was lovely to get a Friday 'off' and just sit on the sofa when I got home with a glass of wine).

I hate my birthday as on every birthday I end up feeling rubbish because a certain family member has forgotten (I'm not a princess about birthdays, but this family member treats me like crap constantly and it just highlights it). Christmas can also be a bit iffy because of this family member.

Valentines day is the only day DP and I can 'celebrate' without this family member managing to scupper it! When DP and I have children, I want us to make it a family day.