parenting. ..childcare..working

[TheMultiTasker]

I am a sensitive soul so please go easy!
I am unsure if I am being unreasonable, before I joined mn a while back I would have thought yes. However mn has opened my eyes to the importance of eequality and respect for working mums etc (that's not phrased well..but what I mean is. I now feel my job is equally important etc)

I don't want to drip feed so apologies for the length.
I am work as a nanny. Its something I am so passionate about and I worked really hard and trained for. I work PT since having our ds and as he comes with me, we incur no childcare costs. If he didn't, I would not be able to work
My contract ends very soon and haven't yet been able to find another nwoc job. So will be a sahm while activly job hunting .
DH works full time and earns the same as I would (but more through extras) when I work fulltime hours. he also loves his job.

It is of my view that we have been lucky that I have been ableto work at all since dc and that in between jobs its just a case of really cutting back. bills are covered by one wage. We share all money.

Dh Is anxious about being on one wage (aka not having lots of play money) and has suggested I work evenings and weekend.

So basically, I'll do all the childcare midweek and then work in family time? Doing something unrelated (we are talkng local shops) to my area of work and one iI've worked hard to build great reputation and continually seeking extra training. While he gets to do and progress in a job he loves?

It won't be long before I find a nannying job. I'm sure- but aibu in feeling put out at his suggestion. He didn't get my point and thought it was nuts when I suggested he sahpand work evevening and weekends while I work ft instead ..since there's not much difference in our current earning potential ?

[rollonthesummer]

Nobody has said she could be a childminder overnight, but if she loves working with children and wants to be with her own child whilst she works, there are very limited options available to her.

She has been (as far as I can see) very lucky thus far finding an employer who she can nanny for and take her child. I cannot imagine there are many jobs like that available; if I was looking for a nanny, and had plenty of people to interview-I would not take the one who wanted to bring their own children with them. I just wouldn't, not unless there was absolutely no alternative and I was desperate for quick childcare. I wouldn't be happy about it though. OP may find she never finds another job like this one-so, will she never work again? Waiting until her own children start school does not make this problem go away, it just means you can only look for work between 9.30-2.30 as you still have nobody to look after them. I am suggesting she finds a long-term solution.

Moving house and registering as a child minder is a positive step and will allow her to look after children (which she loves) and look after her own. It may not happen overnight, but surely it's a better choice than not doing anything.

The other option is working in a nursery/daycare setting who might give her a discount on her own child being there too.

[TheMultiTasker]

Roll, I have good connections and actually, lots of family see much benefit to having an nwoc nanny, not least from a financial pov, for ex. I take around £8- 8.50ph instead of the £10 nanny's with same experience but no child command. nwoc nannies are common here and so I am fairly confident I'll be just fine. As it is I have four interviews over the next fortnight. . its just a case of finding a mutually good fit for both us and the family.


thank you all for your input. It's given me lots to consider.