AIBU in finding comments such as "soft shandy drinking southern bastard"

[lolaisafuckertoo]

from my husbands Northern family, beyond insulting. Card from FIL with usual sentiment on it for DH for birthday. Similar comments from the fleet of twats during Xmas day Skype (we are abroad for the moment). given that the grand daughter is southern i.e. born here. I am also born in the south east. I want to tell them all to just fuck off northern fucking monkeys.
I don't think it is funny. DH doesn't seem to think so....but then his dad is always less funny than he really is..

[Vikki88]

I think you're being a bit precious - I grew out of letting stuff like that annoy me years ago. I get called a dingle for being a Wolves fan & I used to let it get under my skin to a degree... but after a while you just stop caring! It's not worth being bothered about.

People from Wolverhampton aren't anything like the Dingles, it isn't that grim up north, southerners drink the same as everyone else & the Welsh don't really shag sheep. At least not that often, I don't think.

[ethelb]

This thread is hilarious, but in all seriousness to the OP, it can often be a little nastier than people are making out here.

There is plenty of banter, which if you are British, I just think you have to put up with a little bit if you are going to make friends outside of your own area!

However, I do think there is a core of people who are actually quite serious. I am a southerner who speaks 'RP' but has spent time living in the north, and I have plenty of friends who banter about my fridgid southerness (though I can drink ) and we have a laugh and I moderate my po-faced'ness!

However, I have also met people for whom it became apparant fairly quickly that the banter was actually masking a fairly serious belief that I was somehow inferior due to the fact that it was obvious to them that I and no-one else in my family had ever worked a day in their life due to being bedecked with priviledge from the moment of conception and were therefore responsible for everything that had ever gone wrong in their own lives and families, and the lives of all of their ancestors back to Abraham.

Like a mumsnet competitive poverty/anti 'rich' people thread on acid.

I do come from a relatively comfortable background, but most often these people did too, and I have to say that really, really grated.

Plus in my experience (London-based) it is not true that southerners hold equally narrow views. The only time I ever experienced a person sneering about 'northern birds' was a bunch of rugger buggers at the pub, which as I am sure you are aware is by no means representative .

[TwinklyMummaLuvsHerBubba89]

Latara I shall store that rhyme for future use, thank you!

[KatieScarlett2833]

I remember my first slag off with DH well "I'm from Fife, Katie"
"Nae luck, do you squeak when you walk?"
It was love at first insult

[Kelpie1975]

Sticks and stones will break your bones, but names will never hurt you.

Unless, of course, you're a soft, southern shandy drinker. In that case, names are lethal to the fragile wee lambs.

[KatieScarlett2833]

If a Scot is taking the piss out of you be relieved, it means we like you.
It's when we go monosyllabic on your arse you need to worry
Scots rip the pish out of each other for everything, be you a Weedgie, a Sheep Shagger or a tight Fifer. It's what we do.

[Alisvolatpropiis]

It isn't the most offensive thing ever.

But if the relationship isn't that great between you and them and it's said often, I can see why it would annoy you. So Yanbu.

If dp's brother/utter twat best mate (all southerners) said something derogatory about me being Welsh, I'd go off like a rocket. Because I don't like them and they don't like me.

English people I get on well with, I just return in kind. There's so much more to mock*

It can be a laugh.

Though "have you had a stroke/sat on your phone" if speaking/texting Welsh (usually on their request) does get on my tits.

*that was a joke.

[VampyreofTimeandMemory]

not the most offensive comment i've ever heard tbh.

[usuallyright]

I was being a bit tongue in cheek, but most regional stereotypes stem from some original truth or other. Either way, I've always found the north/south pisstakes amusing. I've been on the other end of the pisstake comments, from southerners telling me how common and loutish northerners are, whilst forgetting I'm northern! I found it hilarious!

[Charotte31]

I'm from Essex husband from Scotland and his family, manly his dad loves to take the piss out of me, Essex, the way I speak even how my DD his grand daughter talks. Gets right up my nose!

[lolaisafuckertoo]

usually were you being funny? Sorry if I shot off like a rocket there.

[lolaisafuckertoo]

usually I can drink the fucking back legs off anyone, northern southern or likewise. as can my Northern Husband. He doesn't walk like the bloke in the bittersweet symphony, I am far from soft and do not tolerate shandy.
You can accurately report that up yer friggin arse love

[usuallyright]

as a northerner darn sarf, I can accurately report that the stereotypes are in fact true and not just stereotypes!

[lolaisafuckertoo]

mim78 I think that is it really. The southern thing is simply the tip of a slippy pile of shit they feel compelled to throw. I never rise to it, ever, even in moments when they are outrageous. but this is just really boring now.

[Mim78]

Am taking from this the idea that it is not so much the words they a're saying that are offending you but the constantly being got at by family. If so yanbu as would be tiring.

[DipMeInChocolate]

As a southerner, well midlander living in the NW it doesn't bother me at all as I agree with it. My northern cousin has lived in London too long and on a recent visit home upon not being able to use a card in the pub stated "oh, I forget things work differntly outside of London".

[lolaisafuckertoo]

volestair isn't it though?!

[melika]

My FIL is always having a go at my background, but although grating and has bothered me over the years, I'm sure he is delighted when I do take offence. So I don't anymore. He is a prat.

JUST IGNORE and think of some choice ones to fire back at them. You can end it with 'but I'm only joking'!

[aquashiv]

I used to live with a bunch of northerners (from somewhere dark outside Watford). I could drink all of them under the table and they wore coats when I didn't have to. So I would say its all lies and rise above it.
However in my case I am rather partial to a glass of shandy now. Send him a picture of Albert Tatlog or whatever old git is on Corrie these days, saying saw this and thought of you..
Its just banter. Its the folks from the West you have to watch.

[Latara]

In fact.... down here in Dorset you're a Northerner if you only come from London.

[Latara]

Down here in Dorset there are lots of 'incomers' who have moved here from London area and the North... I used to get teased for my (slight) Dorset accent by some London lads and got called the Caramel Bunny!!