to not buy for sisters new partner's child ?

[SeptemberFlowers]

My sister has been in a relationship for about a 18 months we aren't close as a rule. She will sometimes send a text to say hello and bit of chit chat every 4 months or so, I do as well. She has never once sent a birthday card or asked after the DC's.

Until last year.

We hadn't seen each other for a year or more but she asked if we met up for Christmas, so we did. She mentioned she had brought some token gifts for DC's (we have never expected any anyway).

Rewind 12 months and I met her boyfriend and his daughter. This has been the only time I met his daughter.

Fast forward to now and we meet up at Christmas, she brings the boyfriend. She gives the DC's their gift and say thank you. Her boyfriend looks at me a bit expectantly and I'm a bit confused by it (no gifts for adults usually) she is giving me equally expectant looks. I ask what for and was told "Nothing."

On the way home (met up at a pub) I get the following text.

"Both C and myself are quite disappointed you never brought a present for B (C's daughter) for Christmas, this comes across as a bit one sided and selfish to us both and I can only hope that you will think of your neice on Christmas day without a present from you and your family and feel shame."



I replied back "Are you serious ?!"

She hasn't replied since.

I hadn't even thought about it as I have only met the girl once and my sister doesn't even send presents or acknowledge her own neices and nephews !

DH thinks I should tell her do one

[Barmaid101]

What happened with the birthday... What's the plan for gifts, will be following this

[lalalonglegs]

So, did you get a present for your "niece" last year? I'm genuinely desperate to know.

[clam]

September! Welcome back!

[WhereYouLeftIt]

Ooh I remember this, was gobsmacked first (and second) time around.

Has your sister bought your children birthday and Christmas presents since "Princess Giftlist's" birthday?

[AlpacaStockingFullOfChocolate]

I'm glad there is a slightly happier update to this thread now, but remember - we are all with you if when you need to rant.

[FuckYouChristmasAndThatClaus]

I remember this thread. 2 years?! I hope he behaves himself. Don't put up with any nonsense.

[Inertia]

Oh that's good news.

I hope you have provided a gift list.

[allnewredfairy]

Given that Dsis's partners child will not be in attendance will you buy a gift OP? And you think they may be following this thread?

[CheesyNachos]

I remember this thread too. I hope it goes better than you fear OP.

[MascaraAndConverse89]

God I remember this thread.
Hope the Smarties keep them quiet- your sis and her husband that is!

[AndNowItsSeven]

Was this thread really two year ago? Time goes way to fast. Visiting or not, buy a gift this time

[EasterRobin]

Good luck OP. I hope your family is a bit less interested in gifts nowadays (or have worked out they can buy sweets for their own child). It would be nice to hear that everything has moved on and you all get on this time. Let us know how it goes.

[Chopz]

So has she bought your kids gifts over the last few years?

[Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost]

Buying the child a selection box wouldn't hurt you, would it

[Fidel1ne]

Christmas 2013. TWO years ago.

It was a miserable, un-christmassy, transactional kind of bunfight the first time around.

Exactly WHY have you resurrected it OP?

[1frenchfoodie]

or make that Christmas 2014..

[1frenchfoodie]

As she had bought your DCs token gifts the previous christmas I think you should have got her partner's child a token gift too this year.

[Sprinklelights]

Oh...this thread was from January....

[Sprinklelights]

Sorry, OP had to reread your post as it was a bit confusing. But YANBU.

[SpecialistSnowflake]

Can I just ask, because it's not clear to me from the thread - have you ever explicitly pointed out her gross hypocrisy? That she didn't buy your dc's gifts for the first ten years of their lives, then bought them a tube of smarties each in an effort to extract a present from you for her bf's child, and now expects you to buy a £45 gift for the child, whilst presumably earmarking a couple more tubes of sweets in the supermarket for your two?

It's insane...

[SeptemberFlowers]

Smarties at the ready

[SeptemberFlowers]

Jesus Christ

I agreed in the last month to seeing them and then tonight hunted out my thread to post on it.

I've just reread the whole thing and clearly I have a selective memory to the events of two years ago !!

Well they have been together that entire time and she's happy, rereading this thread proves DH's memory is better than mine not that I'll ever tell him that

[CadleCrap]

The question is...... Do you have a tube of smarties, just in case?

[SeptemberFlowers]

Well - we are giving it another go.

It's the season and all that, Dsis has been with him the entire time so no longer boyfriend now I suppose but more partner.

We have exchanged texts throughout the year but short and to the point, they aren't bringing his daughter with them when we meet up as it's her turn with her mother.

We shall see how it goes ...

[Cheeky76890]

It's very weird that he's gone out of his way to seperate SIS from her only living relative. Very odd.

It's very odd that he values monetary gifts so highly, attaching how accepted his DD is to how much people spend/if they spend. Very warped. People should feel valued without lavishing cash.