to eat ds's curlwurly while he sleeps?

[DottiestDoris]

it's in his selection box and I REALLY fancy it. He prefers chomps so it's not that unreasonable, surely?!

[DottiestDoris]

death by chocolate tiggy?

[TiggyD]

He could end up caramelised.

[PurplePidjin]

Squash because a) he likes water and i see no need to change that and b) the additives and chemical crap (I'm sensitive to those). Chocolate because if he's sensitive to caffeine in breast milk - i had one cup of regular tea today and it affected bedtime - the unadulterated stuff may well send him for a complete loop. I completely cured his teatime colic when i first gave up caffeine when he was 6 weeks old. He eats like a much older child, to the point that i worry about over feeding him; at least if it's fruit, veg, lean meat, cheese, lentils etc i know it's doing his growing body some good. Replace that with something of less nutritional value - sweets, chocolate, aspartame-filled drinks - and i would worry about obesity etc.

He does get treat foods but it's cinnamon bagels, honey sandwiches (his absolute favourite!), organix crisps and biscuits, a bit of whatever I'm having like a blueberry muffin or scone. Malted milk biscuits instead of custard creams blah blah blah...

Watch out for them pesky polos, Tiggy

[DottiestDoris]

Oh ok Purple. Sounds like you've done a very good job working out the effect various foods have on you and dc. Im bf my ds2 at the moment and he gets subjected to hot curry, caffeine, sprouts etc. I might try your approach, sounds kinder! Mind you-he is a sleeper, so clearly caffeine immune.
As for my thinking re choc and squash, I know ds drinks plenty of plain water and milk. He eats tons of vegetables, mostly raw, and lots of fruit, along with cheese and meat and fish. So like all things, moderation is key. He's allowed chocolate at times and I don't think he's any worse off for it. I mean, how else would I bribe him to behave?

[littlewhitechristmasbag]

I have always eaten my children's chocolate. I don't steal it - i just blatantly take it from in front of them. My DD2 (16) now removes all chocolate from my sight immediately and hides it. She is too good at hiding it so i can never find it. Dammit.

[PurplePidjin]

Yours is significantly older than mine. Once ds is able to indicate that he wants what the other dc are having, he can try it no problem! I'm the same about character clothing - once he's old enough to express a preference then he can have it but for now he gets plain. I'm expecting years of Peppa fucking Pig and Thomas the bastard Tank Engine alongside "mummeeeee can i haaaaaave" so am fending it off as long as possible

It's nice to actually express and discuss this tbh, mostly i just get raised eyebrows. I have the ultimate hippy baby - refuses dummy and bottle, not interested in tv - alongside my choice to use slings and cloth nappies. The other mums already think I'm a bit odd! doesn't stop them asking for my advice on stuff despite this being my first child

[PurplePidjin]

PS we get 6-6:30/7 on a good night, 6-4:30/5 on a bad one these days. In his cot. Don't tell my hippy mates, they'll ostracise me, but we sleep trained

[prettypleasewithsugarontop]

YANBU

my DDs know that their crunchies vanish in the night

[HOMEQCRICH]

Ahh competitive caffeine consumption. .

[FreudiansSlipper]

Purple have your hippy friends not told you food should never be used as a treat, can be a set up for all kinds of food issues

why should you ever feel guilty or felt you have done something good to deserve a type of food shall not harp on about adverts making women look foolish for eating chocolate cake

Some foods are good for you others are not and you only eat them occasionally that is all there is to it

[DottiestDoris]

Freudian, I might be wrong but Purple refers to treat foods rather than saying she gives food as treats. Sounds the same but I think she means 'treat foods' as items different from mealtime foods, given her examples.
Having said that, I don't particularly think there is anything wrong with rewarding with a particularly tasty or favourite food, therefore making it a treat. My ds (2 yo) ironically loves ryvita and gherkins and I will give them to him on occasion as a reward for good behaviour. Other times too, of course, but they work as an incentive. Likewise, I may do the same with sweeties or chocolate. But again, I may give them as a treat, or just because. Some things are naturally treats because it is good for ds to learn that he can't have as much of something as he'd like, whenever he'd like, and therefore make him excited when he can have them.

[DottiestDoris]

Purple, I hear you on the character clothing. Definitely avoiding that for as long as possible. So far have managed to get away with Thomas underpants and slippers only. For ds, not me.
DS1 never took dummy or bottle, but we didn't try very hard, especially with the dummy. And haven't yet tried with ds2 (the bottle, won't be trying the dummy).
Would love to say ds1 isn't a tv watcher, but he does love cbeebies (and helicopter heroes) and I rely on it now and again, especially with young ds2.
I like that you're doing what you feel is right and not following the crowd, whatever that may be, and listening to what your ds naturally seems to like and not like.

[Danann]

glad I'm not the only one considering stealing chocolate, DD left her selection box on the floor having been told she was definitely not to leave it where the dog might eat it, I'm tempted to eat some then blame the dog (who luckily is actually a very good boy and didn't touch it)

[DottiestDoris]

A valuable life lesson Danann!

[PurplePidjin]

To me a treat is something enjoyable done rarely. So, a muffin on a trip to a cafe. Or staying up late when visiting the ILs so he can play more with his big cousins. Or watch lots of cbeebies at granny's house

[dimdommilpot]

I gave DD a chocolate from her selection box yesterday, she chose the curly wurly. I was gutted and willing her to not like it. She did.

[pixiepotter]

i actually think it is very sad that a mother thinks it is ok to steal from her child .the fact that he is too young to know makes it worse not better imo :-(

[Rachelicious]

My dad used to tell me he had to check my food wasn't poisonous so he would demolish most of my treats. It took my years to realise he was lying lol

[200Cigarettes]

Are posters actually serious? Stealing? Stealing?? Its a chocolate bar that a 2 yo wouldn't even notice ffs! If op was particularly attached to this chocolate bar and notice it gone then yes, it would be mean to take it. But a mum helping herself to one choc from her toddlers selection box which at that age no, he shouldn't be eating all of anyway, is not a big deal.

Stealing...I'm lost for words.

[200Cigarettes]

Correction - if op's dc was attached to a particular chocolate

[200Cigarettes]

It's hardly money that was given to her dc. Wow I can't believe some of these ludicrous reactions.

[Mrsantithetic]

I ate dd jelly tots because she would just suck them and spit them out randomly round the house.

So there.

[DottiestDoris]

Thank you 200. I just think that callibtg it stealing when we are talking something trivial like chocolate, in a post that was supposed to be jovial and in the xmas spirit, is a little harsh and also teaches such strict proprietary ethics when actually it's about sharing in a loving and fun-filled family.
But I also do want to hear people's opinions and appreciate that some would consider it stealing. It has opened my eyes anyway.

[Rachelicious]

If you walked up to a random child eating a curly wurly and snatched it then yes that's out of order but it's the op's own child's bar of friggin caramel here. Oh gosh!

[pixiepotter]

Are posters actually serious? Stealing? Stealing?? Its a chocolate bar that a 2 yo wouldn't even notice ffs!

so is it not stealing because ...

1. it's only a chocolate bar? Try that one in your local corner shop!
   
2. Because the child is too young to notice? so the cleaner who stole money from my wealthy but senile elderly neighbour is ok then because she hasn't a clue ?