to eat ds's curlwurly while he sleeps?

[DottiestDoris]

it's in his selection box and I REALLY fancy it. He prefers chomps so it's not that unreasonable, surely?!

[madasa]

I regularly 'stole' my DD's chocolate.

She was about 10 before she realised that chocolate bunnies actually do have ears.

She is 22 now and has come through it unscathed

[littleblackno]

"Mammy tax" I'm using that one in future

[BakedAlaskaStomper]

I took a bar from each kids selection box and called it Mammy Tax! They all coughed up, even the 15y DS1; it was the 8y DS2 that put up resistance. DD just handed it over. Although 15y handed me the buttons, that was kind of sneaky, wasn't it?

[littlewhitechristmasbag]

This thread has taken a very bizarre turn. Usually posters would throw their hands up in horror at a 2 yo having access to any sweets at all. Now there is a furore over a mum eating a curlywurly which her child doesn't even know he has. She is doing him a favour and looking out for his teeth and general health!

I think the grips need to be handed round pronto.

[DottiestDoris]

pixie, I think the difference for me is that your view seems so prescriptive. By that, I mean there's nothing wrong per se in what you say, it makes sense. But I would apply the logic to a situation such as a house share. Where people do need to be more territorial. This is a family situation where nothing really belongs to one person and not another. Yes, the selection box was a present to him, but everything we own as individuals also belongs to the family. If you call it stealing, it is like saying I'm stealing from myself.
As fory comment about him being 2 and not knowing, it was more in reference to not making him upset. He doesn't know he 'owns' a curlywurly and is therefore not going to be upset if it disappears. I would never deliberately do something that would upset him and therefore this was not a factor in weighing up whether to eat it or not.

[200Cigarettes]

pixie the cleaner was an employee and should not be stealing anything from her employers. Op is dcs mother - one that most likely does everything for her dc and puts herself second- I know I do - they eat better, dressed better, thw dc always get put first. I think its more than okay for her to have a choccie at xmas.

Its preposterous of you to liken actual theft to a mum eating a chocolate bar.

Listen to yourselves. Absurd.

[200Cigarettes]

It's a chocolate bar people! A paid for chocolate bar (bit different than stealing from a shop!) that op's dc has plenty of left. Bloody hell if I didn't eat some of the xmas chocolate my toddler was given she would either make herself sick from eating that amount or it would go out of date. 2 yos shouldn't be eating whole selection boxes. I'm amazed at some of these ridiculous overreactions!

[girliefriend]

I did steal a bag of dds chocolate money as she had a ridiculous amount and I had none.





I am not even sorry.

[pixiepotter]

Are posters actually serious? Stealing? Stealing?? Its a chocolate bar that a 2 yo wouldn't even notice ffs!

so is it not stealing because ...

1. it's only a chocolate bar? Try that one in your local corner shop!
   
2. Because the child is too young to notice? so the cleaner who stole money from my wealthy but senile elderly neighbour is ok then because she hasn't a clue ?

[Rachelicious]

If you walked up to a random child eating a curly wurly and snatched it then yes that's out of order but it's the op's own child's bar of friggin caramel here. Oh gosh!

[DottiestDoris]

Thank you 200. I just think that callibtg it stealing when we are talking something trivial like chocolate, in a post that was supposed to be jovial and in the xmas spirit, is a little harsh and also teaches such strict proprietary ethics when actually it's about sharing in a loving and fun-filled family.
But I also do want to hear people's opinions and appreciate that some would consider it stealing. It has opened my eyes anyway.

[Mrsantithetic]

I ate dd jelly tots because she would just suck them and spit them out randomly round the house.

So there.

[200Cigarettes]

It's hardly money that was given to her dc. Wow I can't believe some of these ludicrous reactions.

[200Cigarettes]

Correction - if op's dc was attached to a particular chocolate

[200Cigarettes]

Are posters actually serious? Stealing? Stealing?? Its a chocolate bar that a 2 yo wouldn't even notice ffs! If op was particularly attached to this chocolate bar and notice it gone then yes, it would be mean to take it. But a mum helping herself to one choc from her toddlers selection box which at that age no, he shouldn't be eating all of anyway, is not a big deal.

Stealing...I'm lost for words.

[Rachelicious]

My dad used to tell me he had to check my food wasn't poisonous so he would demolish most of my treats. It took my years to realise he was lying lol

[pixiepotter]

i actually think it is very sad that a mother thinks it is ok to steal from her child .the fact that he is too young to know makes it worse not better imo :-(

[dimdommilpot]

I gave DD a chocolate from her selection box yesterday, she chose the curly wurly. I was gutted and willing her to not like it. She did.

[PurplePidjin]

To me a treat is something enjoyable done rarely. So, a muffin on a trip to a cafe. Or staying up late when visiting the ILs so he can play more with his big cousins. Or watch lots of cbeebies at granny's house

[DottiestDoris]

A valuable life lesson Danann!

[Danann]

glad I'm not the only one considering stealing chocolate, DD left her selection box on the floor having been told she was definitely not to leave it where the dog might eat it, I'm tempted to eat some then blame the dog (who luckily is actually a very good boy and didn't touch it)

[DottiestDoris]

Purple, I hear you on the character clothing. Definitely avoiding that for as long as possible. So far have managed to get away with Thomas underpants and slippers only. For ds, not me.
DS1 never took dummy or bottle, but we didn't try very hard, especially with the dummy. And haven't yet tried with ds2 (the bottle, won't be trying the dummy).
Would love to say ds1 isn't a tv watcher, but he does love cbeebies (and helicopter heroes) and I rely on it now and again, especially with young ds2.
I like that you're doing what you feel is right and not following the crowd, whatever that may be, and listening to what your ds naturally seems to like and not like.

[DottiestDoris]

Freudian, I might be wrong but Purple refers to treat foods rather than saying she gives food as treats. Sounds the same but I think she means 'treat foods' as items different from mealtime foods, given her examples.
Having said that, I don't particularly think there is anything wrong with rewarding with a particularly tasty or favourite food, therefore making it a treat. My ds (2 yo) ironically loves ryvita and gherkins and I will give them to him on occasion as a reward for good behaviour. Other times too, of course, but they work as an incentive. Likewise, I may do the same with sweeties or chocolate. But again, I may give them as a treat, or just because. Some things are naturally treats because it is good for ds to learn that he can't have as much of something as he'd like, whenever he'd like, and therefore make him excited when he can have them.

[FreudiansSlipper]

Purple have your hippy friends not told you food should never be used as a treat, can be a set up for all kinds of food issues

why should you ever feel guilty or felt you have done something good to deserve a type of food shall not harp on about adverts making women look foolish for eating chocolate cake

Some foods are good for you others are not and you only eat them occasionally that is all there is to it

[HOMEQCRICH]

Ahh competitive caffeine consumption. .