Hello everyone,
AIBU in thinking I can lose 7 stones in 14 month (1/2 stone a month) by eating healthily, and exercising a bit more?
I'm female, 5ft 7", 18st 13.5lbs (prety much 19st), size 22.
I miss all the sports I used to do, my knee is really bad and won't heal after I damaged it cycling, and I won't go to Alton towers anymore as I'm too embarrased after the last time when I nearly didn't get the bars down on my tummy.
I've tried all sorts of diets, even had a gastric band a few years ago.. it worked but went wrong and slipped and I've piled the weight back on, silly me 
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Is anyone else in the same boat? Would love to hear some inspirational stories or to at least feel like I'm not the biggest freak in the world 
... I can't even seem to find a winter coat I like that isn't knee length or a ski style jacket.
It's so sad really, I'm 30 now and spent my 20's dieting, I don't want to do the same in my 30's. I don't have children yet, so I need to do this now!
I love sports, extreme sports in particular like snowboarding and scuba diving and I'm pretty depressed as I can't do them very easily now and don't want to book any holidays because of my weight.
Anyhow, I'm rambling..
Thanks for reading 
AIBU?
AIBU to try to lose 7 stone in 14 months?
nitrox · 08/11/2013 12:59
nitrox I think you just have to find something that works for you, simplistic though that sounds.
I can identify with everything you have said and wish I had realised as much as you have when I was younger. I am now in my 50s and from my 20s onwards my weight has just crept up and up until I reached my heaviest ever (not saying what it was but it was significantly heavier than you ) A year ago in September I started low carbing on the bootcamp threads and it has made a huge difference.
I do find my addiction to carbs has weakened, I still love them now and again but no longer crave them as I did. I have deliberately chosen to take a relaxed approach and will eat or drink what I want on a night out or special occasion as I don't want to feel deprived (I have dieted, failed and put it all back too often before!) so have lost weight more slowly than I could have but am now over 3 1/2 stone down and feel I am in with more of a chance this time than ever before although I still have loads to go.
My advice would be to make changes to what you eat without depriving yourself so much you feel like you are on a diet, let those changes become the norm for you and keep moving in the right direction with more changes iyswim.
Find support from friends, bootcamp, 5:2, whatever suits you.
Set goals that are achievable yet challenging. My first goal was to get my BMI under 40, then it was to get below XXstone, then to buy a smaller dress size, etc. If I had said I want to be a size 10, I'd be demoralised by now as that ain't never gonna happen!
Above all, do something, anything! I have spent years waiting for a miracle, thinking that a diet, gastric band, hypnotherapy or something would be the missing piece of a jigsaw that would knock everything into place and it would all just turn around. Sadly it won't. I now know that I am the only person who can do this for me and it isn't easy so you go for it! Do what works for you and good luck!
clarinetv2 - wow, very inspirational!
I love your weekly calorie idea, that might work out really well for me, so many good ideas, I'm really glad I posted 
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We were thinking of booking to go away at some point, but I'm scared that I won't lose the weight and it'll be a waste, especially as snowboarding holidays are a minimum of £1000 each person.. I've got into the trap of saying the same thing every year and now I've lost my confidence in my ability to lose weight. I'll have a chat to the boyfriend tonight and see what he thinks about holidays. We do go away to Cornwall every summer for a week, a chill out holiday, which I love as I drive there and I don't have to worry about being too fat for the plane, or not fit enough for activities. I do want to go surfing again this year, not done it in a while and wayyyy too embarrased to do it at this weight, so I have that as a mini goal for the summer.
My main goal is a snowboarding holiday next Christmas, I want to be around 12/13 stone (size 14) for that if possible.
Yeah sure I remember being only about 4 stone lighter than I am now (which would still be classed as quite overweight!) and I loved the gym, genuinely really enjoyed it and liked swimming and was the fasted on my team (and the biggest!) but now my knees ache sometimes even going upstairs, the bloody shame of it. If only I could be overweight again 
Seriously though I feel like I've tried everything, but not really tried anything if you know what I mean. My friend started ww last January and plugged away every single week, she had her bad weeks, slow weeks, weekends away etc and now here she is 5 stone lighter and then there's me who in that time has tried countless things and all I've got to show for it is a nice big extra stone right on the gut
timidviper - thanks so much for your post, I guess in a way I don't want to get to my 50's (no offence) and look back and feel like I've wasted all those years, like I already feel about my 20's and teens. I want to enjoy life and my hobbies and get back to doing things that genuinely make me happy to be alive, and I want to pass that on to any children I have.
I agree with what you say about finding a way that works for you. Time and time again I've read stories about people from WW, Slimming World, Lighter Life, Gastric Band, Bypass, Hynotherapy, Slim and Save etc etc etc and I've thought, wow, I can do that.. but yet again it ends in failure and I seem to gain an extra half a stone for every failed diet.
I want to do as you have, not worry about a special meal out, or my birthday, and have what I want now and again without stressing.
Very wise words, and thank you for posting.
Hello! 19st and 5'2 here , need to lose 19 stone.
I'm going to get back on MFP and this week have downloaded the NHS 5k running app, I've been jogging (slowly) around my living room all week!!
No children at the mo and certainly not going to risk being morbidly obese and pregnant. Ideally I'd like to loose it in 1 year, but realistically 18months.
It's bloody hard when you realise you have a long way to go isn't it? That's what stops me, I get on a diet and then think about how much longer I've got to go and start eating crap again. I really do need to lose weight though and need to quit making excuses.
Am here for moral support if you need it, good luck and you have that snowboarding as a carrot to spur you on
Make the snowboarding a cake and I might actually succeed haha.
Good luck to you too! Glad you have revised your goal weight to 10 stones too 
Do you have a large living room? or just jogging on the spot? Sounds like a good idea, I really need to start the exercise DVD's!
Will we set up a thread in weight loss to try keep each other going and compare more notes on how miserable this extra blubber is making us!!
In my head I'm nothing like the realty, some days I feel I'm looking really well but will catch myself in a shop window and it's actually heartbreaking.
Eatingallthecrumpets, I see you want to be a nice healthy weight of 0 Haha 
Your so right, having a long way to go does make it so much harder I think.
Yes, yes, yes, I too catch a glimpse of myself in a window or in a shop and it's hideous! I'm a very confident person in every other aspect of my life, but the mirror does not lie! I can't quite believe how bad it's got sometimes and it really does spoil whatever I'm doing. I'm looking at you Debenhams mirror .
Oooh, I do love crumpets!
Sirzy - ooh, I shall join you guys on the thread, all the help and motivation is much needed.
Timidviper - I too have been loved 'mostly' regardless of my size, never struggled to find a boyfriend and am in my 2nd long term relationship. Of course, he would love me to lose weight and be more active so we can do more, and to see me happy.. he happily buys me cakes and crap when asked and doesn't question it, but will support me when I'm in diet phase too.
I really do want to find a way of eating that is too restrictive that I feel like I'm on a never ending diet.. it's so boring and tedious and I lose the will to live. I enjoy food too much to give it up, yet it's taking away so much of my life that it's like the devil is disguise, slowly chipping away at me.
I think I've forgotten how nice it is to be healthy.
The 5:2 diet really does seem compatible with having a normal life doesn't it? I must say it's one I haven't even tried, I just feel I want even two stone gone NOW you know? Which I know is not the best way to see it but I'm so out of my comfort zone weight wise now, looks wise, knee wise, everything! I was changing the beds the other day and I was so disgustingly ungraceful, flopping around out of breath Ugh!
It's so good to be in a relationship where your weight doesn't matter, mine never has either except how unhappy it made me or that I'd feel like declining invites to certain things because of my size! I'm single now but still great friends with ex (DDs dad) and he's on his way over with wine no boyfriend has ever been bothered about my weight but I can totally understand why for so many reasons they'd want me to slim down!
Rule one of successfully losing the weight is to stop feeling guilty and ashamed.
Rule two of the 5:2 threads is that its better to offload stress and worries at us lot than at real life family and friends.
Rule three of weight loss - there is no wagon. You cannot fall off. Therefore tomorrow is another day.
And getting lighter and healthier is ALWAYS worth it.
Living a long time is not much fun if you are ill.
Yeah I'd struggle for 19 I think
Not a particularly large room, it's got a bit of length so I can get a little jog in, but mostly it's on the spot. Very gentle jogging as I'm knackered and out breath quickly I don't want to hurt my knees.
I was considering the 5:2 but I don't know if it would just give me "reason" to pig out on normal days. On MFP I'm setting a goal of 1400 calories and at least 20 mins of exercise every day.
My problems are: carbs, chocolate/sweets/cakes, portion size. And a completely sedentary life. I need to cut the crap and increase excessive, easier said than done though
Similar to you I spent my 20's putting life off because I'm too big. I don't want my 30's to be like that. I want to be healthy and happy.
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