to have expected some sympathy.

[popmusic84]

So I was upstairs with dc supervising bedtime for dc. Suddenly I felt the urge to vomit and was physically sick. Kids just carried on as normal but obviously I wouldn't necessarily expect sympathy from primary aged dc.
However, I went doenstairs to get water and told dh and his response was um!
No sympathy.
Aibu to be pissed off with him.

[WallaceWindsock]

I don't think YABU! DP normally hears me and comes and holds my hair. I'd be hurt if he didn't even turn from the tv because in our relationship that would be unusual. Some people on this thread obviously operate differently which is fine but it think the fact that it upset you suggests that this isn't what you'd expect his response to be in your relationship, therefore YANBU.

[Opalite]

Of course YANBU. Nobody likes being sick, it is absolutely horrible! I'm surprised at the YABUs on this thread

[Crowler]

Maybe I'm TMI with my husband but he'd know straight away if I were sick. But I'm sick like once every ten years.

[popmusic84]

Guess I was just feeling fragile. Af going on too. So a mixed response. Thank you.

[FortyDoorsToNowhere]

you have my sympathy. I am sick twice a day every time i brush my teeth.

[raisah]

Go and kiss him before you brush your teeth. You will soon get a reaction!

Men are generally not very good with the empathy when it comes to sickness.

[Minty82]

YANBU!!! I'm pregnant, so am sick quite frequently at the moment but still expect (and get!) sympathy when it happens. No reaction to your wife being sick out of the blue is bizarre. Hope you're feeling better.

[Lilacroses]

YA definitely NBU. Am really surprised that some people think you are! How odd of him not to check you are ok or offer you help!

[SpottyDottie]

What hoppingmad said. Vomiting is horrible, no matter if it happens regularly to,you because of an existing illness or because you have a bug or are pregnant. I'd expect sympathy every time. Luckily my DH is a very caring kind man. I'm sorry yours wasn't too bothered op. make him pay for it

[DoJo]

It depends - I throw up a lot, so only mention it to my husband if he asks why I was so long in the bathroom, and don't really expect much beyond an 'oh, right' when I do. But if you don't throw up often or are a bit funny about it then I would at least expect a little sympathy.

[songlark]

Yanbu, I would have expected sympathy as well even though
I know I wouldn't have got any. I think it's just common courtesy to show a bit of concern, how would he have liked it if you had took to your bed and left him to cope with everything.

[popmusic84]

That's bad ikabod.

[Ikabod]

My DH would ask if I'd stained the carpet/ damaged anything. I'm trying to teach him "people over things". I was upset about something once. He came in the bedroom, then went out and got a damp cloth to wipe my mascara-infused tears off the duvet cover. Afterwards I gently explained that next time he should get tissues and mop me up, we can put the duvet cover in the wash. He genuinely didn't think about it that way until I told him. Similarly when I fell down the stairs and landed on the shoe rack, broke it (bruised my bum). Again, had to remind him that the shoe rack could be replaced and he should ask first about me, then the shoe rack. To be clear, he is a lovely sweet man, just has his priorities a bit screwed up!

[OneStepCloser]

Aw no, your yanbu, a bit of sympathy would not go amiss. DH would have my feet up on the settee with blanket, pillow, take away and take over. have some

[xCupidStuntx]

YABU but I hope you're feeling better

[SoldAtAuction]

I can see that he wouldn't be in the phone to 911, but he could at least offer a glass if water, or a ginger snap!

[Mylovelyboy]

YANBU Could have asked if you were alright.

[Crowler]

Islidur, the OP is not even supposed to mention to her husband that she was sick?

Some people find it really traumatizing.

[Crowler]

PukingCat, do you have both a puking husband AND a puking cat?

That sounds grim.

Why does your husband vom frequently? I would not cope well with this (vomit phobe)

[Isildur]

It's a bit unnecessary to have mentioned it really, as you knew you were not really ill/contagious.

What would you do in other circumstances - skip into the room trilling 'Tada! I have constipation!' or 'I have the most amazing piles!' in order to get a reaction?

'Um' seems a perfectly valid response.

[PukingCat]

My dh vomits quite regularly (not through choice) and i always give him sympathy.

[popmusic84]

It has probably happend maybe 3 times so not too frequently.

[CoffeeTea103]

Sounds like this happens often with the digestive issues so I can see why your DH had no reaction.