Am I bring a spoilsport?

[WooWooCaChoo]

DP wants to do loads of fireworks in our garden for halloween and bonfire night, I've said a firm no.

1. we have just enough grass space but it's all overshadowed by lots of trees. There really isn't any bit of our garden that doesn't have trees hanging over.
   
   
2. next door has about 5 dogs and I know that at least 2 of them don't like fireworks, 1 of them is still young and hasn't experienced them yet.
   
   
3. DP isn't well known for his safety skills. He gets very excited around fireworks and thinks he is the exception to the rule.
   
   
   So AIBU to say no? Him and his friend think I am.

[harticus]

YANBU - fireworks are a pain in the arse.
Go to an organised do.
Safer, cheaper, more impressive and less anti-social.

[hugoagogo]

YANBU
Fireworks should not even be on sale to the public imo.

[trinity0097]

We do a display through school and the exclusion zone from the setting off area is about 150m, even if home fireworks are smaller a small garden is no place for fireworks. There are loads of good displays around, you get far better displays that way!

[Birdsgottafly]

"I can't see any reasonable person being angry and deciding they would no longer get along with their neighbour because they had some fireworks and their dog was upset. It's fireworks night. It will happen."

Halloween and Birthdays arn't "fireworks night", so just as a matter of courtesy, if your neighbours have pets, you should tell them that you are planning to set off fireworks.

My dog is very stressed by them, I would be happy to go out with my dog for most of the evening, or change my plans, as it is my choice to have a pet. I would like them to be considerate enough to let me know, as I wouldn't understand why they would not give a shit about distressing a member if my household, even if it is "just a dog".

I am setting off a few fireworks at my Mums, for my DD's Birthdays, I am letting the neighbours know.

The main issue that needs to be considered is the safety aspect, you need enough space to stand back, as well as overhanging trees etc.

[WooWooCaChoo]

Oh and also he would not be sober while doing these fireworks!

I don't mind what anyone else thinks really tbh, just wanted to see if I was massively unreasonable or just a bit. Thanks for your opinions.

[LtAllHallowsEve]

I think you are very considerate OP. My friend has a number of dogs, one of which is absolutely petrified of fireworks, to the point of going into fits - foaming at the mouth, being sick and messing himself. Which may be fine if he was a handbag dog, but not so easy to cope with as he is an 8 stone Rottweiller. The last couple of years my friend has paid for him to stay actually at the vets on bonfire night, so he can be sedated.

Well done you! I wish you were my friends neighbour.

[livingzuid]

Alexa I cnnot believe you would say something so callous if you had seen the effect first hand that fireworks can have on dogs. Great respect to the op for taking that factor into consideration.

As to DH drunken in charge of fireworks is it wrong that image made me chuckle (what is it with men and fire and gunpowder driven antics?!)

[ZingWantsCake]

can you call a fire station and ask if they do safety assessment?

if he heard it from them that it is just not safe he'll shut up about it.
sorry, sometimes you need the "teacher" to sort it out.

[NoComet]

I love fire works and I hate dogs, so you are asking the wrong person

[soontobeburns]

Whilst of course you do get illegal fireworks here, it makes me happy to know you need to buy a licence (£40 I think) here before you can get any.

We dont have bonfire night so not the same amount of people want them, but im glad they are really dangerous and stress my dog out too

So just to say OP YADDNBU

[SatinSandals]

It seems fairly simple to me, you have an unsuitable garden. You don't really need to go into the other factors because the fact that the garden is unsuitable makes it a none starter.

[intitgrand]

yes you are a spoilsport.It will be fine

[SatinSandals]

It has all the ingredients not to be fine!

[ZingWantsCake]

also my husband does the fireworks at our kids school (and loves it of course) but he had to do a one day learning course.
The PTA paid for it as safety is paramount.

maybe he could do one as well and then he could do the fireworks at school.
he'd love it, kids would love it, PTA gets a bunch of money raised on the day (last year we had over a grand profit!) so win-win-win.

[diddl]

If he's not safe I think that that answers it tbh.

[OHforDUCKScake]

Big fag no.

Id not support that at all.

[Howsuper]

My dh is a nutter with fireworks - what is it with men and fire? So I'd probably try and put him off to save life and limb.


Surely you can't go to a local park and just let fireworks off as some have suggested??!

Re the dog next door, I'd just give them notice. There will be tons of fireworks that night so the dogs will have to suck it up!

[Howsuper]

Love the big 'fag' no, DUCK!

[ZingWantsCake]

it's not just men though.
I would have done the fireworks training if I hadn't been pg at the time!