Name-changed but I am a regular.
Obviously, there's a back-story to this but this is a brief synopsis and I am begging for help because I am acutaly pretty distressed about all of this...
I stood up to mum and her undermining me with my parenting and as usual it went tits-up. She decided she wanted to drag up the past - Im gathering from her response that she hoped to get a different-than-usual response from me. She asked for an honest answer to the question, how do I feel about my childhood. I tried to leave the room and she wouldn't let me so I answered as truthfully and neutrally as I could (though how does one be neutral when one is faced with the memory of feeling like a blight on her mother's landscape?) She didn't like my answer so she showed me and the kidlets the door at which point I lost my shit due to the fact that she was choosing to ruin A's half term because she was not happy with me. She told me this evening that its obvious I don't like her, shes waited since I was a small child to show her the love and respect she deserves, and since she's not going to get that she no longer wants anything to do with me. I pointed out that the way I felt as a child had more to do with her actions than mine and that I wanted a relationship with her, I wanted her to see her grandchildren and that couldn't we leave it in the past. She said she was sick of people not liking her and that we should not have contact anymore and that she might see the grandkids from time-to-time. Im speechless to be honest....my dad hasnt even bothered calling me.
What do I do? This is just a drop in the ocean that is my relationship with my mother, and I realise that this is just from one side but seriously what do I do? I dont' know where to go from here...
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wellfuckit · 26/10/2013 23:28
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