to not go or do people generally behave at a funeral?

[WestPier]

A wonderful complicated person has died and there will be a funeral. I'm knew him professionally and although I will know others there I can't remember who's fallen out with who.

Do people generally behave or do funerals bring out the worst in everyone. DH does n't want to go, it's a long way away, so I'll be on my own.

Your experiences (or crystal ball advice) please

[MyBaby1day]

People should behave at a funeral, I think it's disgusting if they don't. My Uncle behaved disgracefully at my late Nana's . Like Coupon said as long as you behave properly then that's o.k.

[ZillionChocolate]

Go to the service, don't stay long at the wake (if you go at all).

[Tabliope]

I think it would be disgusting for his ex colleagues to create any kind of a scene in front of his family. One thing if there is bad feeling between the family (hopefully they can hold it together) but his colleagues aren't family so should be on their best behaviour. I'd be really pissed off at strangers causing a scene at a member of my families' funeral.

[WestPier]

If everyone behaves it will be interesting, he was an amazing guy. There's potential for everyone - family, colleagues, clients to kick off; you don't get to be that exciting without pissing off everyone at sometime or other.

I've only been to a couple of funerals before - bothe were 'celebrations' of a life well lived in a pedestrian way.

I want to go to get reminded of the happy bits, the experience of battling against the odds and achieing amazing things. I'm not interested in racking over old grudges, whinging about money or pointing out how I'd of done things differently.

Thanks for all your experiences, I don't want to spend 48 hours and £200 to get my ear bent so I need to go armed with a few positive conversation steerers - and possibly try to water down any alcohol.