WWYD? Big argument with DM (by text; she hates talking on the phone at the best of times (has fairly serious social anxiety) and even less so where there is any sort of dispute/stress involved).
This is a bit long and complicated, sorry. On Saturday, we'd arranged to pick up DM from her house and drive her to ours to look after the DC for a few hours, as DH and I were both going to separate things. When DH got to her house at 9am (having just dropped me off at my course) there was no reply. He had stupidly forgotten to bring his phone from home, so after 10 mins of knocking on her door he had to come back and find me at my course, and get me to phone her. No answer (a common theme), so I texted, and got a reply 6 mins later. Turns out she'd gone to what she thought was a more convenient pickup point for DH, that would save him time (which was tight, he had a class to go to at 10am) and texted him at 8.50am - 10 minutes before the prearranged meetup time - to tell him where she was. In the end, it was all too late to pick her up and DH had to miss his class. I know she was trying to be helpful, but it was just too short notice to change the location imo. What do you all think? This is the crux of the whole problem (there's more - MUCH more! but I don't want to give you too much of an essay to read). I say it's too short notice - even if DH had had his phone with him, there could have been all sorts of things preventing him hearing or reading it within 10 mins; she insists that "why on earth would more notice be needed in the era of mobile phones?" She's refusing to accept what she's calling "unjustified criticism", refusing to talk to me to discuss, and sent me a very sarcastic text a couple of days later when I texted her about something completely different. There's been no contact between us since, and I'm really not inclined to.
AIBU? I'm pretty sure I'm not - I wasn't unkind to her or anything, just said "it wasn't too helpful that you changed the pickup place at such short notice ...". I almost wasn't even going to mention it, but felt I had to in case she did it again in the future ...
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Argument with DM over messed-up arrangements - AIBU?
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artemisandaphrodite · 17/10/2013 12:09
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