My Dh has asked me to put this to the vote on MN because he thinks I am being silly about something. Here's the problem:
We have a 2.5 yr old. He is a real little worrier, gets quite anxious and timid about stuff and needs a lot of reassurance about quite small things, like someone standing near him in a shop. On of his biggest things is that every night before bed, I have to spend ages reassuring him that animals are not going to come into the bedroom and 'get' him. I don't know where he got this fear from, but it is very real for him.
Anyway, earlier, I went to the loo before we started bedtime, and I came back into the living room to find him showing DS a YouTube video of a crocodile about to attack a baby gazelle. I took the iPad away and pretended it was a game, which DS fell for. I've watched the video since and the attack itself, which DS didn't see, is really brutal, bloody and horrible. Ds has just got a crocodile cuddly toy, and DH's reasoning is that it would be interesting for Ds to see what crocs are like. As though that's the only possible way of finding out more about crocodiles 
Dh says IABU for thinking this was a problem. I say he is out of his tiny mind to show such a video to a child of that age full stop, never mind to a tot who has a terror that animals are going to attack him. I must add that DH is an otherwise sensible chap, who is usually quite judgey about stuff like parents letting kids play age-unsuitable videogames, etc. I also pointed out that as it's always me who does the end of bedtime, it's all too easy for him to not worry about Ds being upset, as he won't be the one dealing with it (I don't begrudge doing this for Ds, please don't comment about that).
Who is BU?!
Thanks.
AIBU?
Who is BU, me or DH?
OxfordBags · 05/10/2013 22:54
Agent, he liked watching nature programmes on television, had no issue with animals being eaten etc. He also used to play fighting games, not really sure why because I certainly didn't encourage it, it seemed to be innate! Always using twigs to fight imaginary enemies and gore them to death.
He accidentally got to see Lion King when he was 2 because I had never seen it myself, and we were at my Dad's, who had the video. I didn't know it had a death early on in it, so when it happened, it had to be explained. I actually think the Lion King is quite a useful learning tool (albeit perforce in my case!) for small children to hear about dying, but if I'd realised I wouldn't have shown it to him then.
He didn't actually drink blood of course. 
Well, maybe it's not just the crocodile thing - or maybe OP's DS is just one of those children whose imagination goes into overdrive at bedtime.
I had one of those, and I know for a fact all he'd ever seen at that age was Tots TV, Teletubbies and that ilk . He woke up with 'bad dreams' until about 6 or 7 years old.
One thing I came across was a suggestion of using something as a 'guardian' - maybe the crocodile toy or maybe that option's not such a good idea now! Have to say, it didn't work for us as we couldn't find anything that didn't also scare DS - we were probably a bit thick though - shoud have used a totally benign, cuddly thing to fend off with the power of good rather than Hopper or a morphed Power Ranger 
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OxfordBags be prepared or a lot of people who won't have read all your posts to come on say 'your H is a nasty so and so'.
RTFT or at the least the OPs posts or YOU'LL end up looking a twat.
Anyway, I think it's a very good idea for your Dh to put your DS to bed and deal with his anxieties. But let him watch you a few times, so he picks up a few tips on what to say to reassure your ds
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