My Dh has asked me to put this to the vote on MN because he thinks I am being silly about something. Here's the problem:
We have a 2.5 yr old. He is a real little worrier, gets quite anxious and timid about stuff and needs a lot of reassurance about quite small things, like someone standing near him in a shop. On of his biggest things is that every night before bed, I have to spend ages reassuring him that animals are not going to come into the bedroom and 'get' him. I don't know where he got this fear from, but it is very real for him.
Anyway, earlier, I went to the loo before we started bedtime, and I came back into the living room to find him showing DS a YouTube video of a crocodile about to attack a baby gazelle. I took the iPad away and pretended it was a game, which DS fell for. I've watched the video since and the attack itself, which DS didn't see, is really brutal, bloody and horrible. Ds has just got a crocodile cuddly toy, and DH's reasoning is that it would be interesting for Ds to see what crocs are like. As though that's the only possible way of finding out more about crocodiles 
Dh says IABU for thinking this was a problem. I say he is out of his tiny mind to show such a video to a child of that age full stop, never mind to a tot who has a terror that animals are going to attack him. I must add that DH is an otherwise sensible chap, who is usually quite judgey about stuff like parents letting kids play age-unsuitable videogames, etc. I also pointed out that as it's always me who does the end of bedtime, it's all too easy for him to not worry about Ds being upset, as he won't be the one dealing with it (I don't begrudge doing this for Ds, please don't comment about that).
Who is BU?!
Thanks.
AIBU?
Who is BU, me or DH?
OxfordBags · 05/10/2013 22:54
Hehe aibu is ace! Your poor dh op! Hope he can take the hard liners on the chin.
I like these threads (hysterics aside) op says is it me or him? Everyone says him. He says er yep I was actually oops lesson learned. How fantastic is that?!
Op you and dh sound wonderful, I am sure your ds is going to do great. Team work means you do occasionally have to field a few unintentional curve balls and you two clearly have each others back.
With the night fears, they will pass, this age is huge for imagination so keep swimming 
if you can find something ds loves/understands who will protect him it can help. For us it was accidentally the spirit of our family dog. She passed so we read the where's mog book which describes mog watching over the family. Dd decided that this meant she was protected at all times! Worked a a treat although it wasn't our plan.
at BillyBanter.
I have to admit I haven't read all of the thread, just the OP's posts, so had missed some of the more extreme reactions.
I have to admit my DH can argue the sky is pink if he's feeling defensive. We both have stubborn personalities and neither of us like to feel like we did something stupid/wrong, so it makes for some veeeeeeeery drawn-out arguments about complete nonsense.
Apologies, OP. I misunderstood your last post and thought he closed it when you came in.
I will step away from the pc now....
Shit. I didn't read the whole thread. Good grief!
Poor Oxford
Aren't all DH's a bit annoying at times? I thought that was just married life.
The fact he shut it down when he heard you coming
Fact?
OP shut it down when she realised what was going on. She said as much.
Your version is more exciting...but it's not 'fact'...it's fiction.
Why do people do this? 
Well he knows he's being U now but seriously calling him all these names? Come on people all we need now is for someone to use the words 'abuse' or 'neglect' and we have a full house in MN bingo! Total hysteria over a dumb thing done once by someone who didn't think through to the logical conclusion and will remember next time to pre watch anything he shares with his son.
Oxford when my DS was younger he spent a lot of time pretending to be a shark so we let him watch the Blue Planet series. Cue a week of nightmares about Angler Fish and other ocean uglies..
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