shouted after my boys' bully

[turbochildren]

We were walking along the road, this boy whizzes by on his bike (with a friend) and starts calling names to my boys. They then stop quite close to us and carry on making rude comments towards us. I was going to just ignore it, but he was saying something I couldn't quite hear and I know in the past he has called my sons 'fucking idiots', so against better judgement I shouted: That's enough of that, you can piss right off!
The kids were about 10-12 yrs old.
AIBU?
I felt shaken, but quite justified in my reaction.

[meddie]

Im with TheBody on this one.

[turbochildren]

That is encouraging Cat!
Probably overthinking it as it gives me a break from other fuckwittery going on ... :)
Fed up of being someone people think they can walk all over, and really don't want that for my children.
It seems to be bully-week for our family, and this standing-up malarkey is new to us. But it does feel good!

[peggyundercrackers]

i would have done as thebody - its the only thing bullies understand.

[Goldenhandshake]

I don't think you were wrong at all, sometime I do feel a bully needs to be intimidated themselves to realise how awful their behaviour makes others feels, call it just desserts if you like.

The only way the three girls who were awful to me at school (I was jumped by them aged 14) were stopped in their tracks was when my mother roped in her friend (who looks younger so got away with looking like an older teen) cornered them, told them she was my big cousin and would kick seven shades of shit out of them if they laid a finger on me again. Worked a treat no matter how unorthodox it may seem. What you did was far milder and I can't see that as wrong.

[Feminine]

At one time, I wouldn't have done as thebody suggested.

These days, I SO would.

The schools do nothing. Its up to parents unfortunately.

At my children's school, its hard...very rural village. You don't know whose family you might upset.

However, I think its perfectly acceptable to help our children.

[StupidFlanders]

I'm shocked they did the bullying in front of you. I'd have let rip at anyone having a go at my family in my presence.

[CrackedNipplesSuchFun]

OP, good for you.

As said UT, its the only way to to handle bullies.

For your DCs to see a parent sticking up for them is so empowering. the confidence that will give them will be huge.

I was badly bullied... physically. If my mum (or any type of authority) had stuck up for me I know alot of my confidence problems I have now woukd not be as bad. I so tthought when I was young that it was my fault and deserved it.

Go you, OP!

[grants1000]

Here Here The Body!!

[JerseySpud]

ywdnbu i would have told them to piss off as well

[thebody]

it is a bit sad to day these things but its the only way that works unfortunately.

defiantly would do the martial arts or such like. it's not so much learning a Kung foo kick //😃 its the confidence it builds.

also tell your lads its fine to shout in the bullies face and look in the eye. all these things will get them to back off a little.

hope all goes well and love the GoldenHandShakes post. that's great advice.

my dds have big brothers and they have been roped in too.

there are some nasty families out there.

[Lweji]

If you go the martial arts route for bullying, then look for a Krav Maga class for children.

And you could join too. :)

It's not a martial art, it's all about self defense (no rules and no complicated techniques).

[turbochildren]

Thanks for good advice. We are moving to a more rural area so it depends what martial arts are available there. I know there used to be jujiutsu classes, decades ago :) I will join too, for sure!
I should have gone to that Shaolin temple in Archway when I had the chance...grr. That would have put any bullies in their place.
Well, this has given me a boost! thank you everyone!

[Sparklysilversequins]

My Mum did it twice on different occasions when I was young, I wanted to die of shame, but they never said anything to me again so it worked. I would do it.