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AIBU?

to need someone to come and tell me where I'm going wrong?

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BenedictCumberbitch · 30/07/2013 18:18

DS is 2.6.

Always been a naturally appalling sleeper (but luckily really easy going in the day!). Have done CC with him as a young toddler then rapid return as a bigger toddler, once he was in a bed. That had ironed out the worst of it, though early mornings were unavoidable.

These last 2 months he's been staying awake and whingeing for up to an hour once he's in bed (I've been going in every 10 minutes, tucking him back in & only saying 'goodnight' etc then walking out after 2 minutes max). He'll the wake at 11, then up to five more times after that, every hourish/hour and a half for no obvious reason. I can't seem to figure out why or get him to stop and am desperately tired

Can someone please tell me what I'm doing wrong or what worked for you? Is it a phase I need to just wait out? Dreading the nights at the moment and can't do anything as well as usual as I've not slept a whole night in weeks. Pretty sure it's affecting him too...

THANK YOU!

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shewhowines · 02/08/2013 08:12

I think it's the heat. I'm waking more than normal. What about trying a fan and putting him back in pjs and duvet.

Apileofballyhoo · 01/08/2013 22:32

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/sleep/1813200-I-need-some-help-with-DS-3-5yr-sleeping

Apileofballyhoo · 01/08/2013 22:30

Somebody on another thread has had fantastic results with a sleep CD. I think it's called 'Sleep sleep sleep now' or something similar. Will try linking.

SuzySheepSmellsNice · 01/08/2013 20:36

I'm so glad you've been making progress. Even after a few nights of interrupted sleep it really adds up and makes me feel awful. I had to take DS to the Drs yesterday morning as he has a bit of a rash, and it looks like he's got Hand, Foot and Mouth Disease... no, not what cows get He seemed fine yesterday, but was definitely under the weather this afternoon and had virtually no appetite. He went to bed at around 6, but we've already been in to him twice. He's warm, and I think he's feeling achey, like when you have flu.

Calpol and kisses...

BenedictCumberbitch · 31/07/2013 17:22

Thank you

it means a lot not to feel alone in it tbh. Have told DP to stay away for a few days as im so tired that im oversensitive and want to go to bed at about half 8!

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 31/07/2013 16:49

fingers firmly crossed here

BenedictCumberbitch · 31/07/2013 15:48

Oh yes, if i had any worries then id insist on different contact but he seems to love it. He's just clingy til the next day, understandably at that age i think.

Not dreading tonight as much last night. Fingers crossed!

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 31/07/2013 14:29

I think cutting out the nap and carrying on exactly as you are is the best bet. good luck, it won't last forever. assuming he has a good relationship with his dad and there is nothing amiss there its probably just being away from you that triggers it as this age.

BenedictCumberbitch · 31/07/2013 13:45

Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind though. He seems better behaved today just because he only woke half as many times as usual, despite the long protest at that 11pm waking.

The night light is verrrrrrrrry dim and if I leave him in the total dark he screams the second he wakes up and seems genuinely terrified, as it is literally pitch black where we live.

It's always worst when he's come back from his dads too (he stays there one night every fortnight). He's not naturally clingy or insecure though and it only ever lasts that following night before he seems back to 'normal'

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LieweHeksie · 31/07/2013 13:12

At that age my DC had several bed toys and each time I had to go into to them during the night I would put one bed toy in the cupboard. Then lots of praise in the morning if all the toys were still in their bed.

ProphetOfDoom · 31/07/2013 13:06

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KateSpade · 31/07/2013 12:50

I used controlled crying with my DD, and now she sleeps 12+ hours every night. I have no need for CC now as she just sleeps,

I know some people don't like it, but it worked fantastically for me, I'd never leave her longer than 10 mins, but it wasn't really necessary as she'd always go to sleep?

Sorry for you lack of sleep op!

BenedictCumberbitch · 31/07/2013 12:16

Better than expected, thanks.

He woke up once and did fight it on/off for an hour but that was it

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SuzySheepSmellsNice · 31/07/2013 11:40

How did the night go?

BenedictCumberbitch · 30/07/2013 22:50

Might try that. Thank you

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Boo86 · 30/07/2013 22:41

ds was a terrible sleeper so i bought a cheap cd plaer and some bedtime cds and pit them on as he goes to sleep then taught him to press the play button if he wakes in the night. did this november last year, he has only disturbed my sleep twice this year. its amazing!

BenedictCumberbitch · 30/07/2013 22:36

Possibly!

Had it checked out and there's nothing wrong with him, besides the noise.

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RandomMess · 30/07/2013 22:34

LOL!!! I wonder if he partly wakes himself up with his own snoring?

BenedictCumberbitch · 30/07/2013 22:30

He snores and gets out of bed to get in my bed so not an option

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RandomMess · 30/07/2013 22:23

Why don't you share a room with him, sounds like he wants the reassurance of knowing that you are there?

BenedictCumberbitch · 30/07/2013 22:16

It's a one bed bungalow and I sleep on a sofa bed in the front room. Glamorous!

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RandomMess · 30/07/2013 22:00

Think I would have resorted to moving his bed into your bedroom by now!!

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BenedictCumberbitch · 30/07/2013 21:55

It's going well thanks

He hasn't woken up once...yet. So that's one wake down, a few more to go tonight!

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poocatcherchampion · 30/07/2013 21:36

how are you getting on now?

we've always had a perfect sleeper and now we have one like this. nap times and sleep times she just crys for me but me being in there doesn't seem to help her sleep although I stops the tears. she is 16mo so a bit younger.

I'm wondering about letting her cry but it makes me sad, and I thiknk I'd have to leave her a good while..

BenedictCumberbitch · 30/07/2013 21:22

I wish I could rename this thread GoToSleepAndStayABloodySleep. It's much more fitting, but I feel a bit bad for being so annoyed by it, seeing as he's only 2 and is just seeing what he can get away with which goes with the territory of toddlers!

I did sort of let it slide when he was ill a month ago and I think he's just been trying to wear me down as he knows there are loopholes!

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