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Went ghetto at Disney. A naice middle class girl...

196 replies

PinotInAPinch · 28/07/2013 07:18

like me. The shame. Spent just one (just one!) day at Disney on holidays in Florida recently - and still wasn't able to keep my "hold my earrings, kids" rage under wraps Sad Last excitement of the day was a (actually v cool) live stunt show. Kids hyper, all excited, chatting to other kids around them on the bleachers we were sitting on. My DS (8) nattering to kid slightly in front of him, then v politely asked his mum if he'd swap with him (as in her son) as he couldn't really see the whole thing. She turned around, hmm'd haw'd, and v pointedly told him - without knowing my DH was listening - that yes, "I will move, but only because it's better for my son, and for you. Just so you know." And - and I swear I'm not usually this ragey but it's a long humid fucking day - and I did a full hand on hip, dramatic "UP KIDS, sit over here" glare, she gives me a "huh?!" (Imagine hand/hip firmness, perhaps a finger point yikes) "Well, it's MUCH better for them at this end isn't it?!! and we all KNOW you know all about that." DH thinks I was AIBU...

OP posts:
curlew · 28/07/2013 11:05

"Seems like a few posters just have their knickers in a twist as they thought this was a opportunity to rub up against a popular MNer and feel conned"

This. Particularly as they had to work so hard to make it OK for said popular MNer to have used offensive language. Which would in most cases have precipitated a ton of bricks on to the OP's head!

diddl · 28/07/2013 11:10

"Did he have anywhere to move to? He was only asking the two people in front if they minded swapping seats!"

He could have asked his parents, or even asked the woman if she would change places with him.

There was obviously somewhere to move to as OP made everyone move!

I think it's really rude to ask people to move around for your benefit, but not be one of the movers.

Maybe just me.

FannyMcNally · 28/07/2013 11:17

Agree diddle but then maybe it's a middle class thing. I wouldn't know Grin

IsaacCox · 28/07/2013 11:18

I've absolutely no idea what's going on Confused I just want to know which show it was?

RandallPinkFloyd · 28/07/2013 11:27

Dear lord there's an over abundance of patronising smug on here at the moment. It's everywhere. Is it the new thing?

MarcelineTheVampireQueen · 28/07/2013 11:40

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NoelHeadbands · 28/07/2013 11:42

Everything SummerRain said.

Although I wouldn't like my 8yo asking other people to swap around, I have to say

curlew · 28/07/2013 11:46

"He could have asked his parents, or even asked the woman if she would change places with him."

Why would it be all right to walk the woman to change place with him, which would has involved her climbing over the seat, but not OK to ask her to swap with her own son who was sitting next to her?

FreudiansSlipper · 28/07/2013 11:48

I hope some are not suggesting it can be cliquey on here Shock

ban them mnhq for breaking the ultimate mn sin

marleebrodie · 28/07/2013 11:49

Don't know about unreasonable but you are illiterate.

Wuldric · 28/07/2013 11:53

An English graduate did this?

I don't believe it. Say it ain't so.

lougle · 28/07/2013 11:57

"I also hold onto my right to bring all language, at all times, to the discussion, whether it's here or in public."

Ahhh so you're one of those posters who decides that your right to language is more important than the feelings of whole groups of people for whom the word is offensive?

It's amazing how the right to use offensive words is so important to some people.

LetsFaceTheMusicAndDance · 28/07/2013 12:05

Arf @ Wuldric

OnTheNingNangNong · 28/07/2013 12:47

I'm glad I went to Disney in 1993, it was naice then Wink

Crumbledwalnuts · 28/07/2013 12:57

Yes summerrain has hit the nail on the head.

whois · 28/07/2013 13:02

Funny thread. OP totally over reacted!

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 28/07/2013 13:24

I think you must have been tired/dehydrated/over-excited

Yes - DS probably shouldn't have asked them to swap. But, as you say, he thought there was a bit if a connection there and it was the sensible thing to do. He's also still relatively young in that he's old enough to feel confident enough to speak up but not perhaps old enough to realise that the request could look bossy to the adult

However, you're reaction was totally bonkers and will have spoiled/ disrupted the show far more for your son/family than anything the mother said to him

I'm quite surprised that, with your very heightened sense of "right" and "wrong" re placement that you didn't think that you all shuffling off in a huff would be rather disruptive for those sitting around you

Nancy66 · 28/07/2013 13:26

This whole thread is like reading something in Norwegian. I haven't got a fucking clue what anyone is talking about.

NayFindus · 28/07/2013 13:39

So you're a snob and too up yourself to rub along with other people because you got a BA in English and not something difficult or useful like law or medicine and you wanted to tell everyone on Mumsnet this?

Job done.

Salmotrutta · 28/07/2013 14:20

So a woman agreed to swap seats when asked to by your son.

She made it clear she was doing it for the convenience of her own son - probably to imply that your son was a bit forward for asking and that she didnt have to - but good on her.

You took exception to someone implying that they weren't obliged to move for your convenience.

You then made a fool of yourself.

I think I've got that right... Hmm

Salmotrutta · 28/07/2013 14:21

That should have said - "but good on her for agreeing and doing it"

Salmotrutta · 28/07/2013 14:26

I'm puzzled by the "Hold my earrings, kids" bit though. Confused

SixPackWellies · 28/07/2013 14:27

Um.....

Aaahh......

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 28/07/2013 14:28

salmo - I think it was a joke. OP saying that ghetto dwellers would take their big dangly earrings off before a fight.

Solari · 28/07/2013 14:31

I think the "Hold my earrings, kids" is referencing the behaviour of certain women who would take their earrings out in a confrontation so they didn't get ripped out (in an anticipated physical fight).

Pretty much just a guess, but I've seen it done before (earrings taken out as an act of intimidation, or as actual precaution).