Went ghetto at Disney. A naice middle class girl...

[PinotInAPinch]

like me. The shame. Spent just one (just one!) day at Disney on holidays in Florida recently - and still wasn't able to keep my "hold my earrings, kids" rage under wraps Last excitement of the day was a (actually v cool) live stunt show. Kids hyper, all excited, chatting to other kids around them on the bleachers we were sitting on. My DS (8) nattering to kid slightly in front of him, then v politely asked his mum if he'd swap with him (as in her son) as he couldn't really see the whole thing. She turned around, hmm'd haw'd, and v pointedly told him - without knowing my DH was listening - that yes, "I will move, but only because it's better for my son, and for you. Just so you know." And - and I swear I'm not usually this ragey but it's a long humid fucking day - and I did a full hand on hip, dramatic "UP KIDS, sit over here" glare, she gives me a "huh?!" (Imagine hand/hip firmness, perhaps a finger point yikes) "Well, it's MUCH better for them at this end isn't it?!! and we all KNOW you know all about that." DH thinks I was AIBU...

[Crumbledwalnuts]

I don't know this Pinot or that Pinot, but it's still not hard to understand, I am by people who find it such a struggle

[FannyMcNally]

knid, was that the homework remark? I didn't think sarcasm broke talk guidelines.

[SolomanDaisy]

What do you think a ghetto is sparkly?

[Sparklysilversequins]

What do YOU think one is soloman?

[Cravey]

I don't think you went ghetto op. I have a cousin who lives in what is loosely termed as a ghetto area. I have to say she is slightly better mannered than you. And her children aren't so rude as to ask strangers to move because they can't see.

[TheRealFellatio]

I wondered how long it would take for this thread to go this way as soon as I read the OP......

There are so many things in that OP that were just asking for a pasting, it was only a matter of time. I think it's a classic example of brazen rookie over-confidence.

[RandallPinkFloyd]

for shame!

[RandallPinkFloyd]

That was for Knid btw, I'm shocked at your behaviour, shocked I tell you.

I just read the OP as booze-addled nonsense. It's awfully angry on here atm

[SolomanDaisy]

An ethnic enclave sparkly. Hence using it as a negative referent tends to have racist undertones.

[curlew]

" And her children aren't so rude as to ask strangers to move because they can't see."

I still don't really see why this is so rude. Unless the swap would have put the woman's ds behind somebody tall.

Would it have been rude if the OP had politely asked the same question?

[TheVermiciousKnid]

I know, I know. :( I'm shocked at my own shocking behaviour. Booze-addled nonsense (or words to that effect) was one of my suggestions. Ah well. I'd better get on with some work anyway...

[curlew]

"Why is it racist curlew? Are you assuming that ONLY black people live in ghettos?"

No. That's why I said racist, classist and offensive. Covering all bases.

[NutcrackerFairy]

I do think 8 year old son who is "actually a dote" sounds like he is quite used to getting his own way... hence his request for an unknown adult to swap seats so he could see better. I don't think many 8 year olds, in a foreign country, would be quite so forward and self assured...

I would imagine most 8 years who couldn't see would complain to their parents and expect parents to sort it out - whether that be via parents swapping seats with them, putting the child on their lap or the parents asking a strange adult sat in front whether they would mind moving...

Actually I would be embarrassed if a child of mine asked an adult to move. I would tell him off and apologise to the other adult as he is being a bit cheeky and presumptuous imo. However if the other adult agreed to move I would be very grateful.

So you should have gone "ghetto" at your son not at the narked woman sat in front.

BTW I agree with all the posters who have said that "ghetto" isn't a very nice term. Just because you live in the Bronx and wear hooped earrings it doesn't mean that you are shouty, fighty and aggressive

[Cravey]

You do realise don't you op that you are coming across as slightly racist. Implying that people who do live in a ghetto are bad tempered and rude. You need to take this thread down.

[Sparklysilversequins]

There's plenty of predominantly white ghettos both now and historically, just google.

Also poor whites tend to live in rural disadvantaged areas rather than inner city areas so you don't hear quite so much about them.

Now in a timely manner I am off to Legoland with my dc, let's hope it all goes smoothly. Rest assured a pep talk on manners will be the ONLY topic of convo in the car on the journey .

[themaltesefalcon]

Incidentally, this thread is highlighting some astounding ignorance of what the word ghetto means.

Lest we forget.

[diddl]

He was rude because he asked others to move but didn't move himself.

Perhaps he gets his manners from his mum.

[FreudiansSlipper]

do naice middle class people go to Disney well I am surprised

it's called losing your temper I have seen a rise in the number of incidents this last week and have done so myself more than once

[curlew]

"There's plenty of predominantly white ghettos both now and historically, just google."

yes, that's why I said racist and classist. But don't let the facts get in your way.......

[Groovee]

do naice middle class people go to Disney no just Working Class

[curlew]

"He was rude because he asked others to move but didn't move himself."

Did he have anywhere to move to? He was only asking the two people in front if they minded swapping seats!

[ShellyBoobs]

Well after struggling to comprehend the whole debacle, I'm still not sure entirely what was going on with OP's dc asking other boy's mum to move, instead of moving himself.



On a side note, I'm also rather concerned for the state of our education system if an English graduate thinks that "I over thank it" makes any sense whatsoever.

[SummerRainIsADistantMemory]

The op went on a trip to Disney with her children. At one stage show her son struck up a conversation with a child sat in front of him but one seat diagonal. The other child's mother was directly in front of the OPs ds.

After chatting to the other boy for some time he asked the boys mother (politely) if she would be willing to swap seats with her son as he couldn't see over her head. No other spectators were in front of the mother or her child so no change in view for them. The other mother made a big deal about pointedly telling OPs ds that she would, but not because he couldn't see but rather as it meant her son would have a better view. She made it clear if there had been no benefit for her son she would have stayed put. She was unnecessarily rude so the OP called both boys to sit at the far side of her family further in the direction that the other mother had referred to as 'better' and made a bit of an arse of herself doing it.

I'm not sure what's so difficult to understand, the OPs a bit jumbled but not that bad. Seems like a few posters just have their knickers in a twist as they thought this was a opportunity to rub up against a popular MNer and feel conned. There are tens of thousands of MN usernames, statistically its not possible for every one of them to be completely dissimilar to every other. How would a new user possibly know that pinot is part of the name of a popular MNer who doesn't even use that name much anymore and why should they care?

[Crumbledwalnuts]

I over thank it was funny. I over-thinked it would have been funnier, or even I over-thunk.