She gave him 2 x £1 toys from Poundland.
Now I know it's not about the money, it's the thought that counts - but that's the problem, there doesnt appear to have been any thought!
The toys are cheap tack and one is definitely more a girls toy.
It just seems she has gone for the cheapest, easy option, not thought about what DS might actual want/need/like, they weren't even wrapped and there was no card.
And just for the record, she could afford to spend more on him if she wanted - she is in a very good full time permanent job, pays very little rent on her own pad, owns a house which she rents out, and has no other responsibilities (no partner, children, pets, car, etc.).
She could have also put more time / thought into his gifts - I would rather her have made him something which would have been more personal or quite frankly not even bothered as what she did give just seems a bit pointless / pathetic (sorry, I know I sound ungrateful but I just know she could - and maybe should - have tried a bit harder as she knows it means a lot to me).
Please don't get me wrong, I'm not materialistic or a snob (there is nothing wrong with Poundland - I shop there myself occassionally and that's how I know the gifts were from there!!). I'm by no means loaded either, I do like a bargain, am sensible when it comes to money, come from a working class background etc etc. but this has just upset me a little.
She has been my best friend for years and I have helped her out in many ways in the past including financially (I have lent her money when she really needed it), practically (ie. when she moved house), emotionally (when her relationship broke down), etc etc. - all of which I of course don't mind doing, that's what friends are for.
I just feel a bit miffed about this, plus she didnt even come to the Christening in the end saying she had family stuff to do instead (even though the date had been in her diary for weeks).
AIBU?
AIBU?
To be a bit miffed by what my best friend got DS for his Christening?
PaperandNuts · 23/07/2013 12:36
I see where youre coming from. one of my favorite cards ever was done on a4 lined paper folded in half with a crappy
joke and picture drawn on it in biro pen (and no it wasn't drawn by a child it was by a family member who had just lost his job and had no money to get me a birthday card) it was so hideous I laughed every time I saw it an proudly displayed it on my mantle piece for days. I was so much happier with that than I would have been with a pound shop gift tbh even if the card cost nothing to make as it showed me the person who did it really had wanted to celebrate my birthday. so I know where you're coming from op...or at least I think you do 
I'd be upset if a friend I'd had for years didn't show much interest in ny child's special day and bought them a thoughtless gift...I'd much rather she had either made a card for free or didn't get anything...I'll probably be flamed for saying thst though
What's wrong with inviting close friends to your child's christening? 
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Is it possible that she hasn't a clue what to buy for a child? Or she may have issues with wanting children herself and not want to go in a toyshop and she saw these things in passing in Poundland. Is she at an age where she might be worried about losing the chance to have dc?
How old is your son and what toy can be 'definitely more of girls' toy'?
I think if she's normally a good friend then you should just forget about the present.
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