to ask my dh to go out, so I can have my friends round for a laydeez night?

[pictish]

Ok so...I am thinking of having a lady-what-does-nails round the house next weekend, so I can get a pedicure for the summer hols (in Scotland we break up next week).
I was with some friends today who said they'd be up for the same, so I'll invite them round too and make a wee night of it.
I mentioned it to dh today, and asked how he would feel about disappearing for the evening. He wasn't too impressed.
He's a real homebody and not one for going out. It's also worth mentioning that we live somewhere where he doesn't really know anyone locally, so going out for a pint with a mate is out.

Anyway, his point is that if he wanted to have some mates round for whatever, he wouldn't expect me to leave, even though I could easily find something to do for the evening.

We are arguing the semantics now, and I thought we could put it to the MN jury.

AIBU?

[OnTheNingNangNong]

I'm glad I'm not the only one with a glorified sofa decoration for a husband. He works shifts so I get the occasional night in, but he never has anything to do in the evenings. Whereas theres loads I want to do but can't atm

[amazingmumof6]

YANBU.

let him stay

get him drunk do he passes out.

paint his nails, do his hair.
full make up

post photos everywhere with the caption " you wish you weren't here"

[motherinferior]

I went out last night and am out again tonight. Mr Inferior is euphoric at the prospect of two nights in on his own on the trot.

[NickyNackyNooNoo]

My 'D'H rarely goes out, he says he prefers spending time with his family. Which is all well and good but not every single sodding night. Although he often calls at the pub after work and arrives home to a cooked tea & children sorted hmmm

Tbh think he's point scoring as I love a good night out, makes the family time more special

[livinginwonderland]

DP goes out every Saturday night for a games night and I love it. I get to spread out in bed and hog the TV and eat all the nice food I have stashed away!

[teacher123]

My DH works shifts, I love those nights to myself! I equally have rehearsals once or twice a week in the evenings so he gets about the same number of nights away from me! Sometimes it gets a bit manic, but as he's around quite a lot in the daytime, we still see plenty of other.

[Lavenderloves]

Send him to the cinema.

He needs a hobby poor man.

[NandH]

YABU to expect him to leave his home for you to basically have a 'pamper party'.... My dp would go upstairs and watch tv/play xbox FIFA rubbish.... Can your dh do something upstairs?

[pictish]

When we first hooked up, we were out as much as funds would allow...clubbing, gigging, raving, socialising....
It wasn't until I'd had ds1 I realised he was actually a pot plant.

[mrsjay]

.I do envy those who have sociable, outgoing husbands. My dh is a lovely man, but he's like a permanent fixture across the room there.

sigh UHU

[pictish]

DizzY - yep same here...dh is very happy staying in with the kids while I go out on the randan, and I get out as much as I can be bothered to.

It's just....it's just....

Dykwim?

[DizzyPurple]

I know how you feel. Mine rarely goes out either! Bit too fond of the tv.. He does socialise more during the day though, gym, cycling club etc. but come the evening it's him and the sofa... Although it does mean I can pretty much guarantee he'll be in to look after DD when I want to go out!

[pictish]

Thank you mrsjay - you are right - I do have fairy lights. AND a tealight chandelier!

I'm punting him out to the pictues with ds1, who is really excited about getting his dad to himself for the night.

Can I just whisper this too....I do envy those who have sociable, outgoing husbands. My dh is a lovely man, but he's like a permanent fixture across the room there.

[mrsjay]

what have you decided to do pictish id turf him else where too and your not an old hag you have fairy lights round your tent

[pictish]

I'm so glad that you mrsjay and you euphemia know of what I speak.
I think everyone else thinks I'm a right hag.

[mrsjay]

DH is an academic and every evening is like this one - he's sitting reading academic papers, and has been since 6pm.

tis all go in your house euphemia

[mrsjay]

My dh is antisocial a homebody maybe we could get a creche or something and i could come to yours i dont want anybody touching my feet but i assume wine will be there just tell him to make himself scarce or he will have a gaggle of ladayz trying to make him over, yanbu sometimes it is fine to just chill out with friends without them hanging about moping

[LalyRawr]

Ha, this is exactly how I met my OH!

His mum kicked him, his brother and dad out for the night because she had her friends over. They just happened to go to the same pub I was at, we met, chatted all night and 4 years later are still together!

[CelticPromise]

I suppose YABU but I understand where you're coming from! My DH doesn't go out often. I love it when he does. It also means he doesn't always get why I want to go out more often.

I went to a friend's last night for takeaway and wine. Her DH went out for an hour and then sat in the other room.

[MrsPennyapple]

Maybe invite him to join you, he can have a manly pedicure or whatever. You won't see him for dust!

Seriously though, YANBU to think he could find something to do. DH goes out every Saturday but not until about 9.30, I'm looking at my watch and thinking "haven't you gone yet?"

[Yonihadtoask]

I say YANBU to ask him to keep out of the way of your girls' night in. However YABU to expect him to go out, if he has nowhere to actually go.