A couple of years ago I had a bad set-back. I don't really want to out myself with details but friends and coworkers were supportive.
I received some small gifts and offers of support which was nice. However one friend did a whip round and gave me the money. I felt a bit awkward about this as I really didn't need it but she put me on the spot and it was hard to say no.
I am doing well now and am proud of how far I have come.
I volunteer for an organization and they asked me to give a talk at an event next year. I said only if I could talk about over-coming obstacles as I don't see myself as a victim and don't want to be presented that way. They agreed.
This got me thinking about the money which I still haven't touched. I had another idea of how to use it that would benefit others as well as me in a positive way. As it wasn't really the intention the money was given for I emailed the woman who organized the whip round to ask if it was ok to use it in this way. She said it was my money and I could use it as I liked. I was pleased with this resolution.
There is an event being organized for next week that I have been helping with and I was really looking forward to. I found out (someone had forgotten to delete the reply bit at the bottom of an email) that they have now decided to turn the event into a fund-raiser for me to buy the thing and said that I am still really struggling and could use the support.
I am actually really angry about the whole thing. I'm not struggling and I don't need the money. It will be hugely embarrassing for me to sit there while everyone passes around money tins to collect money when I still haven't even used the last lot.
I called the woman and she said it was too late to change it as it has already been organized. She implied I was being horribly ungrateful and ruining things for everyone. Plus the other people would benefit too.
Would it be awful of me not to go? I really am so upset about this. I know they meant well but they really should have asked first, shouldn't they?
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Friends raising money for me - ungrateful?
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GreenLeafTea · 03/05/2013 09:45
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