Submariners WAGS

[Gossipmonster]

I have posted in "Forces Sweethearts" about this but you get about one reply a week.

Is there anyone here right now who has an OH on patrol in a submarine and understands how SHIT it is?

I know no one (WAG wise) and on top of missing him and any contact so massively am lost as to how continually explain to friends, family, colleagues that NO I HAVEN'T FUCKING HEARD FOM HIM!!! (For those not in the know you hear nothing).

It just adds insult to injury tbh.

Anyone?

[Bingdweller]

Not the same, but my DH works offshore on boats for around 6-7 months of the year in 5-8 week stretches. It's bloody tough. The total uncertainty of when he is home/away, not able to plan anything involving him (holidays etc) in advance. We do have satellite phonecalls home but they are generally unreliable and Skype even more so.

It's hard gossip but the best way I cope with two small children is to build the best life I can for the three of us and its a total bonus when DH can join us. 3 months a a time must be bloody hard

[Gossipmonster]

Yea the holidays, life, general planning is a nightmare as we never know when he'll be home.

We have to always insure any holiday he's involved with and we want to get married which will have to be insured too.

[HotPanda]

I come from a navy family, so can sympathise.
Have you met the other wags? Can you chat to them on FB? My brother is on a sub and the wags all have a FB page they stay in contact on.

[carbalanche]

He must be something else Gossipmonster

[Gossipmonster]

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[Pandaeyes86]

Anyone still using this? Another submariners wag struggling with deployment :/

[Devilforasideboard]

Not a submariner OH but am a forces one coming into the last stretch of a 6 month deployment and here if you want a sympathetic ear and any advice I can give. It's shit isn't it? I'm outside the usual support network but generally prefer it that way tbh. How long is yours away for?

[ThePearShapedToad]

Sorry gossip didn't want to read and run

I read an article recently about the Trident submarines - not sure if that's the one your DP is on or even if you're allowed to say!) and couldn't believe it when I read about no contact. Absolutely none

I cannot begin to imagine how difficult that must be, on both the navy servicemen and those they leave at home

I second coming on here and talking to us. Let's see if we can keep this thread going till your DP gets home!

So, in the interests of getting to know you-

Wine: red or white or gin?

[saintlyjimjams]

My dad was on a nuclear sub - they used to have intermittent letters (weeks/months between deliveries). There is a family story of my mum (who isn't the best letter writer) sending one saying I was in hospital but not why!! My dad had a long wait to find out.

Are there submariners wAGS online forums? Could you start one?

[muppetmommeh]

Hi. Are there any other submariner's wives out there? Or has this thread faded away? My Old Sea Dog is away ten months of the year and I am going not-very-quietly crazy...

[Lonecatwithkitten]

Not my coping strategy, but a close friend whose husband is special forces, so similar disappearing at the drop of a hat for an undetermined period of time.
Deal with only 7 days at a time.
Take joy in the small things - cap on the toothpaste etc.
Don't watch the news (probably a special forces thing)

[muppetmommeh]

That's how I used to cope but it's been twenty five years now and I can't help thinking I've wasted my life waiting for him...