I actually posted about this group of people a while back when they pushed my ds over. This time it was a different mum, same group. They all come to this (what used to be a lovely toddler group) together. They are all quite young, but very childish young iyswim (I am/ was teen parent) so not judging on age simply behaviour.
My dc had the push along buggy but was at the front of it rearranging doll, child comes along tried to push away from the front, my ds then tried to pull it back and did so, other child starts screaming this awful high pitched scream. I knew ds wasn't in the wrong but asked him to share and let other child take it which he did with minimum fuss. The other child then sat in the corner with it for over ten mins refusing to move with it. He eventually let's go and my ds went and went to take it, other child kicks off and screams and the parents say something to my ds who then stands there face covered which generally means he's been told off.
I walked up to my ds "baby dog, what's the matter?" they instantly jump in with, he snatched it off oc" I know he didn't, pick him up big cuddle "it's ok baby dog some children aren't very good at sharing" to which mother kicks off "don't pick on him he's only 2" so I reply so is my ds and at two they need to be taught to share. The mother comes back with, I was feeding (quite old baby, 10 ish months) a bottle I can't do anything" well actually I've been there done that 4 dc 5 and under and had to breast feed whilst following smacksytoddler around, she could have passed to someone else to give a bottle. She then goes on about my ds hit hers about 7 months ago. Blah blah blah I then ignored and mutated rude words under breath and she then went and cried at toddler group leaver who had spoken to other leader who saw whole thing and said I'd done nothing wrong. They then spent the rest of the hour glaring at me and whispering about me.
I'm even embarrsed typing this it's all so juvenile sounding but I'm not bu am I?!
AIBU?
Bit of a slagging match at toddlers today Aibu?
D0GWithAYoni · 30/04/2013 19:23
Definitely sounds like he screams to get his own way because it works.
Asking to take the pram home for a week because he screamed about having it put away! 
Says it all really.
Some toddler groups are great, some are full of cliques and not worth going back to. I went to a few regularly, wrote off a few immediately (sometimes you just get that vibe, no one speaks to you, not even the person running it, etc) and a few I went to just long enough to make friends I could meet with elsewhere. 
It was a bit of a leap for me to do it, but I'm glad we went as we did meet a lot of people. DS will be going to school in Sept, and we've been at the playground near the school and we both remember several mums and children from the groups.
Anyway, I find passive-aggressive mums at groups especially tedious. I had some borderline shouty passive-aggressive mum at a SureStart group I went to with DS. At some point, DS hit her child (he was in that phase, which most children go through) and yes I was correcting him, but that didn't stop her from shrieking to her friends how omg that child HIT my CHILD etc, as if it were premeditated assault by an adult. Mind, she didn't actually get up, she just shouted about it from across the room where she was sitting with her friends. He didn't do it again but by god she wouldn't shut up about it. I never went back to that group. :)
I'd have just said "lets play with these toys over here" and left it at that. I think the "some children aren't very good at sharing" line is just bound to irritate. That's something you say when you're alone with your child, but if the mum is there then it's you judging and commenting on that mum, whether or not you want to think it is.
at little yoni.
2) When you have another child to look after, you are going to take your eye off the other child(ren) and will sometimes miss something
I'm well aware of that, I also take two dc to toddlers and used to take 3. Of course you sometimes miss something. That's totally understandable and forgiveable. What isn't is sitting with a mobile baby held on your lap the entire session, and using that as an excuse not to move or discipline, it's no wonder the child screams. At one point he kept doing these blood curdling screams. She stood from other side of room and bellowed for him to come to her because they were going home and over whilst the child kept screaming. When eventually he did she sat texting on her phone and ignoring him. She's a dick.
I always found it amazing that these Mothers are never looking when their child is screaming and snatching and upsetting someone else but always manage to drag their eyes to them when there's even the slightest chance of an issue being deemed another child's fault. 
Toddler group
YA a little BU for being at a toddler group and not expecting the Spoilt Brat Brigade to play you up at some point. Says it all that Mummy went crying to the teacher.
I've seen this type in action, all puff and snide comments until someone says something and then they crumble in to a snivelling, sobbing, gasping wreck for an audience-usually whilst sneakily casting smug looks over the 'authority figure's' shoulder.
As someone said earlier these types are often found on the school playground where they continue to reign supreme-usually from the safety of the PTA.
YANBU. So ignore, ignore, ignore.
Failing that organise a bake sale & 'accidently' throw a pointy flapjack at her
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