I met an acquaintance at playgroup this morning,our lads are the same age and she was at great pains to tell me that he was potty training. Which is great, I know some friends' children have potty trained at this age (they're 23mo). But she then went on to tell me that he was in pants as he's allergic to pull ups-he was just using the pants like a nappy and weeing in them-I know all children have accidents when they're just starting out, but 3 times in under 2 hours?!
She kept making a big thing of how grown up her lad is, particularly when he grabbed a toy off my lad and my lad cried ("big boys like X don't cry"). AIBU to think she's a bit of a knob?
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wreckedone · 24/04/2013 12:14
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fairylightsinthespring ·
25/04/2013 14:37
thing is, whilst I agree that in general you should wait until they're ready and then it should only take a few days or weeks, what happens when your DC is almost three and showing absolutely no interest or sign of readiness? We waited and waited with DS until he was 2.10. we took the plunge at that point because Dh and I are both teachers and it coincided with our long holiday so we could be home with him and not involve the CM at the early stages (who remained unsupportive for the entire process). Also many nurseries (as 3+ ones) would not be keen on a child still in nappies, though ours WAS ok, I could tell they were a bit fed up with the accidents It was very difficult to deal with actually, DH was very embarrassed and kept asking if there was something wrong with DS seeing as everyone else was trained before 3. All the GPs kept on at us to do it and seemed oblivious to anything other than the ages that DH and I trained which we heard ad infinitum. DS is 95% there now at 3.7 but still soaked through at night (nappies). If my friend, whose DS "trained himself" in two days at 2.10 and is dry at night raises her eyes at me one more time I may have to smack her 
SpanishFly ·
25/04/2013 14:59
fairylightsinthespring that's a different thing, tho. I think it is accepted that between 2-3 is the ideal age for MOST kids, but a 23mo pissing all over the place, and doesnt seem to even understand why, thats clearly too soon for him.
And by 3yo they're more understanding and aware, so it's often easier when they're older. Your case sounds frustrating and must have been a worry for you, but it's not "the norm".
Who cares what your friend thinks - I hate people that are competitive about things like this 
fanjoforthemammaries7850 ·
25/04/2013 15:02
My DD had her first dry day yesterday...she is 6.5!! 
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Justforlaughs ·
26/04/2013 12:41
Not commenting on an individual case that I don't really know enough about but I do find it frustrating when people think that their DCs are potty trained when what they really mean is that their DC will use a potty IF and ONLY if Mummy is running round after them with a potty in hand and can sense when they need it and manage to get their pants down and them sitting down before they do their wee! that was one very long sentence That is not potty trained!
Each to their own but my preference was to keep mine in nappies until they were "ready" and we had no accidents and mess to clear up. I hate vomit and poo and would far pay out for more nappies than clear up after the accidents. It doesn't appear to have done my children any harm either. On the other hand my own mother insists that I was potty trained at 13 months. in fact, I used the proper toilet rather than a potty!! Not sure I believe that,
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