Ds (7) has a friend round to play. They were upstairs messing around on the keyboard and pressing the different sound effects. One of them is a woman sighing. Ds's friend then laughed and said "It sounds like a lady having sex." It then went quiet. After he regained his composure Dh shouted upstairs "Right, keyboard away now lads." They put it away without question and found something else to do (I think ds assumed they were making too much noise). This friend has never come across as streetwise unlike a lot of the children locally and we're glad he and Ds have become friends. Dh and I are really shocked by what we heard and don't know if we should raise it with Ds later or just pretend it never happened. We're both fairly sure that Ds had no idea what his friend meant. I am nowhere near ready to have a conversation with him about sex. I could probably handle him asking questions about how babies are made and would be able to give him some age appropriate answers but this isn't about reproduction. What the friend was referring to is sex for pleasure and that is a whole other subject that I was hoping not to have to tackle for a good few years yet (complete with obligatory lecture about the law, contraception and STD's). How much do your children know about sex or how much did they know at 7? He hasn't had any sex education in school yet by the way. I know it's pathetic but I feel so sad, I'm not ready for my little boy to be so worldly. I want him to be a child and think about childish things not sex! Oh no, I bet you're all going to tell me that I need to wind my neck in and and stop being so PFB aren't you?
AIBU?
Not to want my 7 year old to know about sex?
chubbymummy · 03/04/2013 16:57
@ "dogging in his pedal car"
And I agree that children are of course aware of sex. They even have sexual feelings. Little boys get hard-ons. (I have even heard that baby boys can get hard-ons when they're breastfeeding which opens up a massive can of worms.) And they all get pleasurable sensations and have urges and natural curiosity etc.
it is good to know willyoulistentome I had been a little uncertain to start with that I had gone too far but it is too late after the fact 
Starlight quite. Me and the DSisses grew up in a naice naice suburb and I clearly remember sniggering about vaguely sexual stuff with them from an early age, and 'experimenting' in the bedroom we shared after lights out. As far as I am concerned, that is 'innocent' in the sense that we really didn't know what we were doing.
I also had sexual feelings from the age of about 8 when I first slid down a fireman's pole at school and 'it felt tickly'. I knew then instinctively that I shouldn't tell my teacher about that and that it was a private feeling.
Bertie 'ooh' and 'ahh' were also hilarious words at that age I have no idea at all where we got that from.
Personally, I think children do have developing sexual feelings and making up a pack of lies to tell them simply indicates to them that these feelings are shameful. I think it makes them a lot less likely to be honest with you. When a doctor remarked to my 9yo DSis that she was 'sexy', she knew exactly what that meant and told my mum straight away! That sort of knowledge is a protection, and if you don't give it to them, a 'cooler', older child will.
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YY I remember talk/silliness/jokes that we didn't understand about "sex noises" by year 5ish if not year 4 which would be 8/9ish. I expect the boy just has an older brother.
I remember with a couple of friends writing down all the rudest/worst swear words etc we could think of and she wrote "ooh" and "ahh" and I couldn't work it out until she modelled it! we thought we were so daring and there was much secrecy of destroying the paper so we wouldn't get into trouble 
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