All I see on MN are threads started to stealth boast about how a size 10 in the naughties is really a size 20 and so called vanity sizing, which then descend to full on fat bashing, even dead for decades bloody Marilyn gets dug up and put front and centre, she wasn't a size 16 you deluded fatties, here, put on this corset and put down the pies.
Gah! But Marilyn is used as an example to say how women in the media have got thinner and its all modern day culture and how its even more 'anti-fat'. So those threads piss me off, as they are based on a total myth that doesn't help women anymore on either side of the fence.
The truth is, based on her measurements from her dress maker and clothes that she wore a size 4-6UK most of her life and that she was little more than a size 8 at her biggest.
This is important to understand as it gives an indication of how women who are thinner are now cast as 'unnatural' and pandering to modern culture.
It is also important to understand how this myth is being used to distort by perception providing a cultural norm that isn't based on reality.
The very thing that the modern media are being slagged off for, is being employed here, in perhaps an even more sinister way. At least we all know that modern day celebrities are stick thin and everything is airbrushed to fuck. To aspire to Marilyn's figure under the misguided notion that she was a size 16 when she simply wasn't, is exactly the same thing.
It is far better to understand that Marilyn faced the same lack of body confidence and battled against the same attitudes. It is a far more liberating and truthful explanation of the reality and more helpful for changing current attitudes. The reality that DOES include vanity sizing and a changing idea of what is healthy and whats unhealthy. If people want to pretend that changes in body size have not happened since the 1950s or even 1970/80s then fine. But don't have a go at people who do accept this - which is based not just on vanity sizing, but also on researchers - both medically based and market research based - actually measuring the average woman in the UK.
Instead you get this idea of 'stealth boasts' when people say they are a size 10, when they are trying to illustrate what has happened in the last 50 years. Its awful because they are attacked for simply telling the truth.
Now we have a situation where not only is it 'bad' to be fat, but its also 'bad' to be thin. How is that a good thing?
Marilyn was a sex symbol because she had fantastic curves. Despite being small. She hasn't be liposuctioned or airbrushed to death. And after years of all this crap about 'real women having curves' its actually refreshing to use her to point out that yes, real women DO have curves. They can also be a size UK4 and look nice and 'healthy' rather than this automatic assumption of 'ill'. I personally would quite like to reclaim her for smaller women for that reason.
That does not mean that bigger women can't also be damn sexy and wonderfully attractive AND HEALTHY. I would really like women to be represented by someone who actually fits this description in the media, rather than having to use someone who is nothing more than a myth. Because thats of more use and a more positive message.
Rather than this crap attacking others in the process of trying to justify your size and how much you eat.
I am small. I should not eat as much as other people because I do not need to eat as much as other people. This is not a stealth boast. This is a fact. A fact that any doctor will tell you. A fact that any calorie calculator will tell you. People should not be comparing what they need and what they eat with me. Yet they do. ALL THE FUCKING TIME. You'd think this was rocket science to explain as being utter bollocks. Or something hideously taboo.
How does this help me? How does this help them?
Compare like for like. Don't beat up others for simply being different. Celebrate whats great about your body. Cos everyone has got SOMETHING, even if they aren't 'perfect' and really don't like their whole body for whatever reason.