to have expected comic relief to be watchable for my 5 year old before 8pm

[PrincessScrumpy]

I know comic relief gets a bit rude as the night goes on but I made the mistake of thinking that as dd has been raising money at school it would be good to let her stay up and watch until 7.45pm.

Yes I knew there would be jokes she wouldn't get but I didn't expect her to be taught the word shagging.

I remember watching it with my parents and wanted to do the same.

So, am I being a fuddy duddy?

[StuntGirl]

I didn't watch it, but have actually thinking about it yes, you are unreasonable to think it should be suitable for a 5 year old.

I would say almost all television on at that time of night would be unsuitable for a 5 year old. The programme was aimed at adults, not pre-schoolers.

So YABU.

[ComposHat]

Hahaha cat consider that seconded!

[YouTheCat]

Yes, Compos. I was at least expecting Billy Connolly's arse to put in an appearance at some point.

Dear BBC,

I am most perturbed and disgruntled at the lack of full frontal nudity in this year's Comic Relief. My family and I were all settled down for an evening of debauchery and filth but were left having to snigger at 'shagging' and 'vajazzle' instead.

Yours most disappointedly,

Mrs YouTheCat

[aldiwhore]

I thought it was excellent and the earlier stuff was far funnier than the later stuff, when they were 'allowed to be rude' it just wasn't as funny.

I have a 9yr old and a 5yr old. There were moments when I had to, as parent, say "okay, laugh, it was rude but repeat and there will be trouble!" but nothing that I thought was so far over the line that I'd complain.

The 'stories' were distressing, especially to my 9 yr old, but again, as parent, I warned him he might find them upsetting, that if he was to watch comic relief he had to watch ALL of it, not just the funny bits in the hope he wouldn't want to watch it and I could watch something else (I also raised £150 from a few easy fundraising stints I did - I just don't like watching it, not the harrowing stuff, the so-called funnies - I do not apologise for that at all) but at very least my 'watch it all or not at all rule' would drive home WHY he'd been to school in his PJ's and paid £1.

The cyber bullying story in particular struck a chord with my eldest as he's experienced bullying. Yes he sobbed his heart out, yes it was very distressing, but it instigated a long conversation between us about how he must always talk these things through with someone, never suffer alone, and that it we can deal with it. So actually, even that was great on a personal level. As parent, I comforted my child. (My youngest wasn't in the least bit interested with any of it and was sat playing lego... )

I didn't like someone of the words used pre-watershed, but they certainly weren't so rude that it would have upset me.

[ComposHat]

I am going to complain there was no muff. or cock after the watershed. it comes to something when Friday. tv doesn't contain one gratuitous genetalia shot.

[CockyPants]

Well I was so desperate to be professionally offended that I telephoned bbc to complain before they had even started the programme.

[imacowbaggetmeoutofhere]

The world has gone barmy coconutty!!

[princesstilla]

I rang the BBC straight away whilst watching it and complained. My son is too young to know about this word and I found it upsetting that it was shown at 7.45pm. It really upset me.

[ComposHat]

RoseanVioletCreams Good grief - please don't tell me that you are so outraged about something you didn't even see and have only heard about on a web forum that you are prepared to submit a complaint?

Get a grip!

[cleofatra]

Honey40 Sat 16-Mar-13 08:19:25

Totally agree with this post.

[cleofatra]

I must admit, I too was a bit put off by the language in the early time slot.

[Ilovexmastime]

I don't think anyone has suggested that Roses.

[Pagwatch]

Yes. I agree with that Roses.
Fortunately I have not suggested that.

[SconeInSixtySeconds]

It was not my intention Rose to imply that people who were complaining must not have donated or supported. I apologise if you felt that.

I was trying to point out (badly obv) that for many children the scene in EE is representative of their lives. We have all heard about children who have killed themselves over cyber bullying, of children whose lives are put under hideous pressure to join gangs.

As a parent, I am glad those items were on last night, the dc (9 and 7) were interested and we talked about it.

But cbeebies and cbbc shut down at 7pm for a reason. My dc normally go up to bed at 7pm and read because tv isn't suitable after that time.

This is the first year my dc have been allowed to stay up and watch Comic Relief, I took the view previously that they were too young. I was 13 when the first Comic Relief was broadcast, I have grown up with it and the format hasn't changed - slighlty risque material sandwiched with appeals. in previous years when I said the dc were too small I found sketches online, and the songs and appeals and pre-watched to ensure I thought they were suitable.

I can't understand watching with a 5yr old and expecting it to be all completely fine. I don't get that mindset at all.

[RoseandVioletCreams]

By the same token, implying that people do not have compassion and empthay with the people in the films because they also didn't like the tone of the program before the watershed is nasty and snide.

Implying that people who do not want thier DC to watch EE etc etc must not have donated or supported it or other charites is deflecting the argument in exactly the same way.

[Pagwatch]

That's fair enough Iliana. Of course you should express your opinion. But trying to deflect any counter to your point by you 'I will be flamed now' and 'I am off out to do good works' is pretty snide.
You have no idea what others do beyond comic relief. To imply that anyone defnding comic relief does nothing else is nonsense.

And anyone expressing their opinion should accept people to challenge them rather than shouting an leaving.

[CockyPants]

If you don't like it don't watch it.
Get of your self righteous high horses and stop whining.
I bet the people who CR are trying to support have got other things on their minds and are not wasting time bitching and moaning over a TV programme.
Perspective FFS.

[IlianaDupree]

Not better, just a different opinion (which I am fully entitled to form and express) and trying to point out there are other ways of donating to and learning about charities than comic relief, which specialises in certain areas.

Sitting on the sofa is much more preferable than standing in the wind + snow though so I'll deflect to you intelligence and fuck the fuck off

[SconeInSixtySeconds]

I had to leave this thread last night, it made me so cross.

Anyone who considers that after 7pm is going to be totally ok for small dc is a bit deluded. The normal content of broadcasting is not suitable at that time, why would Comic Relief be different?

They are words, harmless words that can easily be explained away if you haven't done The Chat, just as Chaos said ^^.

I find explaining the real issues to be more of a concern.

[YouTheCat]

Seems to be a lot of 'Disgusted of Tunbridge Wells' still going on here.

[MissAnnersley]

Me neither LBE. I am very, very far from 'cool'.

Two words. A fleeting moment.

[NotMostPeople]

It's not a children's programme, you choose to let your children watch CR you take a risk. Frankly I don't want tv during the evening to be watered down to be non offensive to children. I have enough of that during the day.

[LadyBeagleEyes]

No Lovecat, it's not about people out-cooling or out-caring.
It's people that are just utterly perplexed that a couple of words is an issue.
I mean shagging and vajazzle?
And that is enough to get your knickers in a twist about?
I don't get it, I really don't.