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AIBU?

Owing / Being Owed Money?

44 replies

ValerieJones · 08/03/2013 17:54

Backstory - one of the Mums from pre-school is getting married tomorrow. Group of us have been invited to the evening reception, so we decided to all chip in for a present - gift and budget all agreed by everyone in advance.

Ange suggested a present, Jen bought it last month.

Ange has now said she'll give Jen the money at the beginning of April (next payday), Jen said "no" and won't let her sign the card in case she doesn't get her money.

Neither on breadline (one smokes, one shops at M&S to illustrate they could cut back if they had to).

Who IBU and should give in to avoid a drunken scrap at the wedding

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LadyPessaryPam · 08/03/2013 22:52

I fuckin love Ange, you are all total caawws.

ENormaSnob · 08/03/2013 23:04

Ange suggested the present in the first place making her even more unreasonable.

Have you told her you can't wait until April for the cash?

PuggyMum · 08/03/2013 23:06

Why not email ange and say 'are you coming to sign the card?.... I could really do with the £15 but as long as I have it in payday I can cope'

Not ideal I know! She should bloody pay you!

ValerieJones · 09/03/2013 14:27

I think I may have to not go to the wedding as I'm seriously cross now.

Guess who just tagged herself at local designer outlet village "buying something nice to wear tonight"???

So she can afford to buy drinks and fags and a taxi for the reception tonight, as well as new clothes today, but can't pay me back for the present........

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SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 09/03/2013 14:31

I think you should have a fight to the death.

OurPlanetNeptune · 09/03/2013 14:37

Ange is totally unreasonable. Valerie, do not let this woman sign the card you will not see your money.

LineRunner · 09/03/2013 14:38

If you sell tickets for the fight you could recoup your losses and make a small profit.

SPsFanjoTheBigStickyHaribo · 09/03/2013 14:41

Line She has to win for that to work

LineRunner · 09/03/2013 14:44

SP And there would have to be a complicated betting syndicate which Ange would end up owing a massive gambling debt to.

ValerieJones · 09/03/2013 14:54

thanks for cheering me up and making me laugh. Sadly I'm a weakling so no chance of fronting it out and I wouldn't dream of causing bad feeling at my friend's reception so will be terribly British and polite while seething underneath.

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claudedebussy · 09/03/2013 14:57

i think i wouldn't offer the card to her to sign, i'd wait until she comes over and asks. at which point i'd say 'you must contribute before you can sign. i can't sub you.' and just keep saying that over and over again. she's the unreasonable one. clearly her priorities are on other things and she's hoping you'll foot the bill for the wedding present.

but you should definitely go to the wedding and have a good time.

WafflyVersatile · 09/03/2013 15:20

Angela, I don't feel I know her well enough for familiars, knew what the present was, knew it would cost money, knew that the present would have to bought by a certain date. If the decision was made to get a present for £15 each around last pay day she should have put the money aside. If she wasn't going to be able to pay before next pay day, and after the gift was given, then she should have asked up front if it was ok to wait or if someone could sub her. Effectively Jennifer has given a loan without being asked if it was ok. And even if it was a surprise that she didn't have enough money until then she still should have asked not told and explained her situation.

Jen is right to be annoyed abput maybe not be paid back, or be paid back late. That said I'd probably just let her sign and hope that she pays me back and learn not to front up money on her behalf again if she doesn't.

And as said everyone could have done the same as Angela. Just because Jen had £150 that day it doesn't mean she could go without it for the rest of the month.

makemineamalibuandpineapple · 09/03/2013 15:32

And payday was just last weekend, but she wants to wait another month with no guarantee of me actually getting the money.

The fact that she has already had one payday, so one opportunity to pay, would be ringing huge alarm bells for me. Why couldn't she pay you then? I think there is likely to be another excuse next pay day as to why she can't pay you. Good for you OP.

theoriginalandbestrookie · 09/03/2013 15:53

Ange is being unreasonable. It's enough hassle to have to go out and arrange the present without people not paying up on time as well.

However not letting her sign the card is escalating the situation. As Anges name is now not on the card there is no incentive for her to give the money. Jennifer (or is it the OP?) would have had more chance of getting the money back by letting Ange sign with gritted teeth and then saying loudly every time she met her "You know that you still owe me £15 for the wedding present. When can I have it as I can't afford to buy the kids new shoes " or something like that.

AnnoyingOrange · 09/03/2013 16:46

Ange is BU. she should pay up

ENormaSnob · 09/03/2013 16:54

Ange is a scrounging twat.

Make sure everyone knows.

ChipTheFish · 09/03/2013 16:55

She is taking advantage of the fact that you don't know each other that well and are too polite to tell her what a chancer she is being.

Presumably she is going to have money on her to spend tonight? There is no good reason why she can't give you the money.

That's the kind of chick I would be wary doing rounds with, make sure she buys the first one!

theoriginalandbestrookie · 09/03/2013 16:56

Now there's an idea chipthefish. If Jennifer is going to the wedding, then arrange a kitty, but say that Ange owes her money so can put in her share.

Disclaimer will backfire as kitties never work out and Ange will probably end up pocketing the leftover money.

LineRunner · 09/03/2013 16:57

Ooh yes, you could snatch the cash off her at the bar.

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