So upset about a night out

[Belini]

One of my good friends has offered to take me out for my birthday. She asked me about 7 weeks ago giving me plenty of notice to arrange babysitters & save a little cash.
Despite asking all my family & friends I have been unable to arrange anyone to watch even 1 of the dc .
I am sat here in tears. I don't ever ask people to babysit. I haven't been on a night out for over 2 years. I am a sp.

[xigris]

Happy Birthday and have a fab night out! . So glad you were able to go out after all

[digerd]

So pleased your mum and sis are going to help you out. You manage your twins alone, but is rather daunting and worrying for another person to do on their own. Just finding excuses for your friend's not to have helped.
Enjoy!!

[cuttingpicassostoenails]

Have a lovely day Belini.

[ThreeWheelsGood]

That's good news OP, enjoy every minute!

[Belini]

News flash!!! 20mins ago my mum & sister have decided they can help after all. I am off out tomorrow from 10-7 . I love my dc dearly but I am so happy to be going out for the day.

Once again a big thank you to all who offered suggestions and/or their time. It's lovely to know there are kind & helpful people out there.

[Belini]

Thanks for all your replies. I do appreciate all the offers of help, however I wouldn't be comfortable having a stranger look after them.
I will try to organise another time but think I may have to accept that my friends & family are not going to help.

[DeskPlanner]

Hope you sort something, you sound lovely & deserve a night out.

[JuliaScurr]

local.mumsnet.com/find-a-local-site

[ENormaSnob]

Sorry but I think a stranger off the Internet (inc gumtree and mn) would be totally irresponsible and puuting them at risk tbh.

[LovesBeingWokenEveryNight]

I think you might need to start saying no to others.

[jojane]

I would ask your son and a friend. Especially if you can get them all asleep. At the worst he had to ring you to come home

Please don't get a stranger off gum tree or the Internet. I know it's rare but you would never forgive yourself if the worst happened (recently read a story about someone who got a babysitter off gum tree who used his brothers I'd and crb chek etc and he abused the children:-(. )

[crazycatlady82]

This may sound like a silly suggestion but what about their father? He should take some responsibility for his offspring.

Hope you find someone to look after them as you deserve a nice birthday.

Again, I am in glasgow but too far (and highly inexperienced as still in TTC phase)

xxx

[vivizone]

It's great that people are so helpful on here but I wouldn't accept strangers from the net to come to my home and look after my kids for a night out. Don't do it op.

Hope you can reschedule and family/friends can help out. .

[Bogeyface]

I am so sorry about your evening out :(

But may I suggest that you use this as an opportunity to re-evaluate your "friendships" and start saying no to people?

[Kippersbigfeet]

OP I am NEFife and could help if you are this way. Can't help if you are further south though as would need to get dh to drop me off and collect me again. I would also need to take my 9 month old but he is very laid back so should be ok.

[Casperthefriendlyspook]

OP - I'm in Dunfermline. I appreciate you don't know me from Adam but I have a 4 year old, a partner, a responsible job, and might be able to help out. PM me if you like. See it as paying a kindness forward.

[BertieBotts]

Are the twins at nursery at all? Friends of mine have used nursery staff in the past. Or an agency would work, even if you had to save.

I'm sorry you didn't get your night out, it's such a wrench when you've been looking forward to something and in the end you're just left with this horrible reminder that it really is all down to you. Chin up :) And next time you offer babysitting favours make sure you make a comment about them returning the favour!

[doorbellringer]

belini I have pm you.

[Ledkr]

My family never help either so I know how it feels. I sat in every new year when I was on my own while my mum went to bed.
I don't ask anymore.
My ds was 14 when he used to sit his baby sister but we are in a friendly neighbourhood with help nearby and I was just a phone call and quick taxi ride away. Could he have a mate to stay for moral support and go out late when they are all asleep leave plenty of munchies and non scary DVD and tell him to call you if any problems.
Would a neighbour be on call if you do this?

[doorbellringer]

When is your night out?

[lurkedtoolong]

Does your son have reliable friends who could help him? If he has one trustworthy friend that you know well and you know you could trust them both together is that an option?

[bedmonster]

Oh bless you, I don't think it sounds entitled at all, its upsetting but we have found that looking after 3 dc daunts people a whole lot more than 2. Though thankfully have a very supportive family who don't mind. I appreciate them.
Please look into nabbing someone local and trustworthy for future opportunities.

[bedmonster]

Where are you OP? If youre surrey/Hants border way I can do it!!
Although I hear where you're coming from wellslap, but I am a totally trustworthy mother of 3!!
Feel for you belini though, sorry your family aren't more helpful.
Hope you and your friend manage a nice night in regardless, and maybe tap up a neighbours teenage niece/nephew/dc wanting to make a couple of pennies for the future.