Some of you may know my backstory from the nature of my post. I namechanged a while ago and have been trying to put the past behind me and move forward with 5mo DD.
Me and my ex have a rather volatile relationship. He didn't want me to keep DD. since she has been born he hasn't provided physically or emotionally. He pays half the maintainence he should.
I tried to keep him seeing DD, him coming here, me there (2.5 hour drive). Supervised by me.
I don't want or agree with any child been taken away from their father but he is so inconsistent and to put it bluntly useless it had crossed my mind that it may be better if he goes away.
He has had a new girlfriend who seems to have taken priority since when I was 5 months pregnant.
It's now 22 days since any contact with him. He's ignored my attempts to send pictures and updates and is like to know if I am BU by thinking this is not acceptable and letting it upset me.
I'm a bit of a wreck today. I know this is AIBU but please try to be gentle.
AIBU?
To feel so upset regarding contact.
MakeItUpAsYouGoAlong · 26/01/2013 13:50
That's a great idea.
He's got a chip the size of the uk!! He can see her anytime he knows that... Still not asked or made any plans to see her.
It's all about getting at me, and I think he's struggling now as I don't let him know if he's getting to me I ignore him.
Sometimes I laugh, sometimes I cry but I don't let him know a thing.
It's so sad, as it never had to come to this. They could have had a brilliant relationship from before she was born.
I deep down know he wants to walk away and I think sometimes the resentment he has for his parents forcing him to be involved is thrown at me.
The emails get sent to provoke me to send a reply to show his parents that I'm a evil bitch. Yet, he never gets one so the more he tries by fabricating things and trying to twist my thought patterns.
It will be the same no matter what the outcome of the future whether it be mediation or court. What really bothers me however is the fact money is going to be spend somehow trying to rectify this. It doesn't matter regarding legal aid as he won't recieve it but that could have been money for DDs future.
Something such as in my dreams a pony, in which would both families could have bonded. I can dream my pipe dreams.
It hit me hard today what the doctor said about not letting me have CBT until I'm lifted a little as I won't accept it. That was on the phone, my medication was doubled, and the prescription she dropped in our letterbox with a note on her way home, saying to call anytime. She didn't have to do that.
The messages I post on here are so up and down. Sometimes I find I tend to put myself down in a attempt to protect and hurt myself to lessen the blow before someone else does.
Ill move to off the beaten track now, you will see me 
He's escalating because his bullying tactics haven't worked so far. What it means, every time you get one of these arsey emails, is that you're doing the right thing 
I love the fact they go in my junk folder.
I have wine and a book and a snuggly baby
Told you he doesn't deserve a birthday card 
. Fucking prick!
He won't go though? Mummy pulls the strings for him.
Another threat.
OTBT- off the beaten track, but ill have to find it and we have to think of a title so I don't loose all you ladies
Stick it in the pile with the other rants and pour yourself one of these: 
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I emailed the lady that helped me ages ago that previously worked with women's aid and is now with another charity.
I will wait and see 
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