to think my babysitter is a greedy pig?

[HeartsAreEveryWhere]

So I went out with DH on Saturday night and my friends 15 year old babysat for us.

Came back about 1am and thanked her and DH drove her home. Decided to make a cup of tea how rock n' roll and noticed that she had eaten half of a victoria sponge cake, a whole block of cheddar had gone and she had drunk half a litre of diet coke.

I did say help yourself to food. But surely this is taking the piss?

[TheCraicDealer]

What's with all the posters asking if she's "large"? Seriously? Newsflash- weight isn't always an indicator of appetite or the presence of an eating disorder. More than likely she's just a typical teenager who likes cake.

[ApocalypseThen]

Yeah, I love the idea of humiliating her by concern trolling her mum (has she an eating disorder? Only, here's a list if all the things she ate in my house...) or showing her that her eating did not go unnoticed by leaving her a special tray of the amount of food that she can eat.

[littlemisssarcastic]

Have skimmed through the whole thread, but all I need to know to ascertain whether YABU or not is;

How big was the block of cheese?

Was it 500g? A kilo? 5 kilos?

I don't think I can decide until I know the size of the block of cheese tbh.

[TheCraicDealer]

Perhaps OP could get a picture of herself holding the empty cheese wrapper with a Daily Mail Sadface, while pointing at the bin.

[Flatbread]

showing her that her eating did not go unnoticed by leaving her a special tray of the amount of food that she can eat

At 15 the girl should know that it inappropriate to eat a lot in someone else's house when you are there for work.

If she doesn't have a clue, the tray will do precisely that -let her know that her greediness was noticed and was not appropriate

Hopefully she will be more careful and considerate in future

[HyvaPaiva]

Craic and the sadface

[Hobbitation]

I probably would have done something similar at 15 if someone said "Help yourself to food" I would take it literally, not knowing how much food is "socially acceptable" to be seen to be eating.

[Icelollycraving]

Be grateful she didn't find some booze to mix with the coke.
the craic dealer your post actually made me chuckle a lot.

[bonnieslilsister]

I wouldn't mention it to her mum at all. Her mum would be embarrassed and would almost certainly tell her daughter.

My children would eat a huge amount if they were on their own for hours
they do anyway I would hate them to babysit for you.

[ApocalypseThen]

Hopefully she will be more careful and considerate in future

Or walk out because she doesn't have to put up with that kind of thing.

[Shriekable]

One of the joys of a night out is discovering what weird concoction my MIL has devoured whilst babysitting. She only does it about once a year so I guess she decides to make the most of it. She and FIL were here the other week; they came at 7pm and had already had dinner, but still managed to get through a packet of prawns, half a loaf of bread, 5 strawberry yogurts, 16 Quality Street chocs (yes I counted them, I see it as a sport), 2 packets of crisps, 2 tangerines, and 6 mini Choc rolls. Yikes!! I would have been puking all the way home. Maybe next time I should check her bag on the way out . . .

[Flatbread]

Sure Apocalypse, she can walk out. And OP can get a load of other babysitters willing to work for £7 an hour and £10 for overtime with a home cooked meal thrown in. Without resorting to grabby behaviour.

Talk about an entitled attitude.

[HeartsAreEveryWhere]

Hopefully she will be more careful and considerate in future

Or walk out because she doesn't have to put up with that kind of thing.

What kind of thing exactly?

I cooked dinner for her and provided her with treats, I paid her over minimum wage and made sure she get extra after midnight, I left the heating on, I gave her free use of the iPad, she was picked up and dropped off by us, I gave her free use of the tv and gave her the code if she wanted to buy a film off sky movies.

I don't mean greedy pig in the nasty sense. When my DC's sneak chocolate I call them greedy little piggies and they just giggle - it's not meant maliciously.

I couldn't care less about her helping herself to more food if she was hungry but feel it was quite excessive.

[ApocalypseThen]

Oh she can indeed. I'd say now if that kid knew about this thread, that's exactly what she would be doing as well.

[HeartsAreEveryWhere]

TheCraicDealer
Perhaps OP could get a picture of herself holding the empty cheese wrapper with a Daily Mail Sadface, while pointing at the bin

That's front page stuff that is. Not sure about the Daily Mail though, I'll see which paper offers me the highest amount before deciding.

[ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee]

Shriekable - Prawns?? They sound barking!! It's not that I find the amount of food that suprising, it's more that people feel OK about eating that much of someone else's food - it's odd.

[DizzyZebra]

You told a 15 year old to help herself. It's your own fault.

[ApocalypseThen]

I don't mean greedy pig in the nasty sense. When my DC's sneak chocolate I call them greedy little piggies and they just giggle - it's not meant maliciously.

You can say what you like about your own kids, but I think extending that to this girl is a bit much, and I think she'd be hurt and humiliated beyond belief if she knew this is how you see her.

The kind of thing I meant is going to her mother to complain in a backhanded way as suggested by some posters.

[DizzyZebra]

And at least if she was eating she was actually in the house. I'd have been bored out of my brains and spent most of the night in the garden smoking.

[HeartsAreEveryWhere]

Oh come on Apocalypse I would say that a majority of threads in AIBU are about certain people - friends, mother inlaws, husbands etc.

It's not a rare or unknown thing for an AIBU thread to be about a certain person.

I'd rather have unbiased opinions as to whether this would be considered excessive because I was unsure.

It also never crossed my mind that she could be bulimic (although I don't think she is) but will certainly tactfully mention it to her mother.

[MrsMushroom]

It was rude of her to eat ALL the cheese. The cake and coke...meh.

[theskyonasnowynight]

She was taking the P. £40 for those hours is good money (esp for an under 16) and you don't know what use someone is planning to put their food to.
I babysat a lot at that age and knew what side my bread was buttered - it doesn't take much imagination!

But don't complain to her mother. That's not very nice. Either don't use her again or when you do make it explicit what she can have (NOT in a "you greedy girl!" way just in a - you can have everything on the coffee table but we've got plans for the other food for tomorrow - way).

[SparkleSoiree]

Teenagers eat loads...I think you got off light OP, she could have eaten all the cake, all the cheese and the full bottle of coke! My former teen would have 5 years ago!

[Flatbread]

Lol. Yes, let her walk out. It seems OP has been more than generous.

I doubt the 15 year old would find such a lucrative gig elsewhere.

I should hope that if the 15 year old knew about this thread, she would be mortified and try to make it up to OP by being extra considerate next time

[SashaSashays]

I could have easily eaten that at that age and was terribly thin and did not have an eating disorder. I used to eat 2 roast dinners with dessert (1 at mine, 1 at boyfriends) then get fish and chips on the way home.

On Saturday between about 6pm and maybe 1am, my DS of a very similar age ate:

Adult sized portion of chicken and rice
A cheese and pickle sandwich
8 bags of crisps
A selection box
A giant stuffed crust take away pizza with wedges and nachos
2 apples
Bag of toffee popcorn
Some bens cookies
Toast
And endless cups of tea, squash and diet coke.

To look at him you would think he barely ate. He would take 'help yourself' at face value and probably eat the entire cake and drink all the coke. He is always hungry. I only know what he ate from piecing together wrappers, it could have been more and that is quite normal.