To confront head teacher

[MissedTheBusHome]

DD aged 7 should have got the bus home from school today.

Usual procedure is after lessons finish at 2:15 she waits in atrium and is collected by bus monitor and arrives at collection point 2:50.

Today she was not collected from atrium. She along with 6 other children were missed off the bus. The first I knew of this was when I received a call from person meeting her to say she hadn't arrived at collection point.

I rang school - for twenty mins I couldn't get through. After twenty mins the answer phone indicating the school office was now closed kicked in.

There is a second bus that runs to deal with DC's who do after school activities so I asked the person due to collect her to wait in case she was on that one. It usually arrives at 3:50. It eventually arrived at 4:15 and thank goodness DD was on it but I am fuming.

For almost an hour and a half I had no idea where she was or if she was safe.

The school obviously became aware at some point that she missed the bus but didn't think to call me to let me know all was ok.

I'm minded to head to school first thing tomorrow to let the HT have it with both barrels -AIBU

genuine a since I may have lost perspective due to another incident

[sashh]

I understand why you are angry but I'm suprised that out of 7 children not one thought to go to reception and say they had missed the bus. And how did they miss the bus in the first place? I can sort of see one missing but seven?

From the times you have given the school found out she was not on the bus at the same time you did.

Do you know they were not trying to call you when you were phoning them?

I'm not saying that your dc was in anyway at fault,, what I am saying is that the procedure needs to be looked at.

[AndABigBirdInaPearTree]

This has happened a number of times with my older child (which isn't as worrying, but still concerning, especially considering how scattered he can be). I talked to the school and asked if there was anything that could be done because it really scared me and I was worried sick that something had happened to him. The special needs coordinator came up with some ideas and they worked.

I agree that getting cooperation and sympathy from the staff is more likely to get you what you want than tearing them to shreds.

[AndABigBirdInaPearTree]

sorry, my younger child who is older than yours is what I meant.

[mummytime]

I am wondering (you sound like an ExPat, from the time zone comment) if the people local to you would worry about this. For example childrn in lots of European Countries are expected to make their way to and from school at a much younger age than in the UK. Much more like the situation when I was young.

Does your child have any SEN, and how old are they? Because these are all relevant factors.

[MissedTheBusHome]

Ok trying to deal with all qs:

shhh. My DD was the eldest of the group at 7, as I think is usual with DC of her age she had very little concept of time. She knows she has to wait in the atrium to be collected and would have I think struggled to realise when she had been waiting "too long". Additionaly one of the fundamental rules we drum into her is that if she gets lost or someone doesn't collect wait where you are and someone will always find you.

I don't know when the school found out she hadn't been put on the bus - sometime after the first leaving at 2:15 and the second leaving which is usually about 3:15/25. The significant point is for at least one hour they knew she was somewhere other than she was supposed to be and no one thought to let me know (or check that she would be met from a bus she wasn't supposed to be on)

I absolutely know they weren't trying to phone me when I was phoning them. I used a landline number to call the school and I have a work and personal mobile that didn't rung the entire 1.5 hours. They have the two mobile numbers (which they contacted me on as recently as last wek) but not the landline.

No SN.

No idea why they missed the bus - they're supposed to be resorted from class to atrium where they are handed over to bus monitor. For context the school is huge: 2000+ students from 3-18. Home time is not a peaceful affair!

We're in middle east. Whilst some might argue there is a more relaxed culture re DC it's a major British school, the teachers are all Brits and had this happened to a local family heads would roll.....

[mummytime]

I would then complain loudly and make it clear that you are not going to "shut up".

There could well be a culture of not acknowledging fault, and of if you do anything then you are the one who will be blamed. So if anyone had spotted the kids and tried to contact you, they would have been the one in the firing line.

I have to agree it is totally unacceptable in your circumstances, and the excuse of local culture does not apply.